Happiness is that sense of pleasure that intoxicates us in certain situations, everyone wants to do it, know what is the secret to achieving it and live it as long as possible, if we could try to be happy every day. time, but it’s just an unfounded and unrealistic idealization. Happiness is not a specific emotional state, it is a way of life.
There are people who have encountered many obstacles throughout their lives and who are happy; others, however, have always been privileged, have had almost everything and yet say they are not happy.
- Clearly it is not the situation.
- The context or what is happening in your life that determines whether you will be more or less happy.
- Happiness does not come from any realization.
- From a couple.
- A child or from a beach house.
- Be happy.
- You have to have a well-built value system.
- Focus on the present moment.
- Unconditionally love yourself and value what we have.
Everything we just mentioned goes hand in hand, so if we strive to change our philosophy of life, which for most of us is very victimized, and we look at life with joy, we will realize that we can find happiness exactly where we want. .
Happiness is not found because it is not in a certain place, that is, it is not there as we are made to believe.
If so, there would be two types of people: those who lead a happy and enviable life and those who have nothing and are unhappy, but reality is not. And we go further: often the poorest are the happiest.
I don’t like to generalize, but usually people who get used to living with less, in turn, “need” less and less. Therefore, your attention is more focused on small pleasures than on these ephemeral rewards.
They value things more and that makes them happier than those who can’t value what they have.
This is why psychological development comes from within the person, we cannot believe that we will be happy when we achieve what we want, if you are not happy with what you have today, you will not be when you have more.
The first step to finding happiness is precisely not looking for that happiness, when we demand it on our own, should we be happy? And we couldn’t do it, we got frustrated, and frustration isn’t exactly synonymous with happiness. the obsession with happiness makes us anxious and desperate. This investigation turns into a struggle.
We will never be satisfied with demand and pressure. Happiness is a state of mental fluidity, acceptance and life in the present moment.
To be happy, abandon absolutist needs. The truth is that we need little to live well: a little food, water to hydrate us, a roof to protect us, to do physical activity so as not to get sick, to have a goal that encourages us to wake up every morning, without us. too worried about the result, sleeping, breathing?
In addition to these needs, all we think we need is just votes. This is not to say that we will not find pleasure in it, but it is not essential for us to be happy.
When you think you should have something, no matter the price, you get anxious. When we succeed and lose, because everything in this life is ephemeral, we become depressed.
On the other hand, to be happy you have to concentrate on the present, nothing exists and nothing is real if we do not live the present moment with the five senses, the technique of mindfulness can teach us a lot about this.
Change your value scale. Don’t just focus on work, partner search, money, success. When you die, you won’t remember. You will remember experiences with your friends, family time, afternoon coffee while looking at the sea, or the sound of your dog’s breathing while you read a good book.
Your priority must be love: for yourself, for life and for others. If you are able to love the simple, the human and the small details, then you can be happy, would you dare put it into practice?