We all hope that the day will come when we close our eyes, take a deep breath and a pleasant sense of well-being invades us when we think that what goes through our body, besides blood, is happiness. Do you feel good and have the happiness that comes out of the pores of the skin?
The problem is that happiness does not appear overnight or does not appear in our lives as if it were a miracle, to be happy is more than waiting and fulfilling, is to decide, act and build using one’s own values and motivations. like a cement Happiness is an inner state. Here’s the key.
“Happiness doesn’t make up. -Dalai Lama-
To think that we are unhappy because happiness is not given in our lives is a very common thought, as well as asking ourselves the question “when I will be happy”. The fact is that this state no longer depends on time, external conditions or luck only on what we do to achieve it.
According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, Doctor of Psychology and Happiness Researcher, 50% of our ability to be happy is influenced by our genetics, 10% by external factors, and 40% depends on what we think and do. thoughts and actions is 4 times greater than what we can not control, so there is no excuse to work for our own happiness.
That way, if we’re not happy with the way we live now, we probably won’t be happy in the future unless we do something to change. The complaint is not medicine or the bridge that leads us to well-being, it is simply the trap that binds us to apathy or discomfort.
This tempting inactivity to which we are accustomed does not suit us. And there are no excuses here; if we want to be happy, action is our lifeline. Why do we think that by acting the same way it makes us sick, can we at some point be happy?To date, doing more of the same has not produced any different results. So why stay the same?
As we have seen to be happy is a very important factor that we can learn to control, these are our thoughts, in addition to them the most important thing and what will determine in large part whether we are happy or not is our conception of happiness.
What is happiness to you?What is happiness to him or her?, What is happiness to me?These are very broad issues, but they are often not taken seriously. The problem is, if we don’t even do it, how do we know when we’re happy?Even at the cost of a mistake, at least you have to ask.
Once the question is asked, there are several ideas that we should take into account, for example, that happiness is not what we feel when we buy a car or a house, in fact, happiness has almost nothing to do with the material, in addition to meeting your basic needs. In this sense, the feeling that matter brings, although pleasant, is nevertheless materialistic, because it is not about quantity, it is about quality.
Happiness is not a smile, even if it helps. Nor is it about living as if nothing worried us, but about the ability to face reality and build what is good for us without causing harm or injury. Finally, without going beyond the limit of considering others only as means or instruments.
It’s not enough to want to be happy, you have to do something to be happy, that’s the most important thing. Because being happy depends on us, what we think, what we do, what we feel, and ultimately our decisions, is our will in motion.
Then we choose whether we want to live being the protagonist of our life or looking at it as a spectator. The first option will bring us closer to well-being, the second to the role of victims. Count on us. Each of our decisions leaves marks that build the way.
But one thing we cannot forget is that happiness requires courage, enough courage to face our fears, those who are in the shadows and hide behind uncertainty. Besides, we won’t be happy if we don’t think we deserve happiness. It is important to believe that there is a possibility, because being happy is an attitude, a state that is cultivated in us, always on the move.