Today, it is not strange to find tragic news in the paper, often we do not pay attention to bullying, but we must change that behavior to preserve the lives of our children and adolescents.
A teenager made the decision to commit suicide because he had to deal with suffering he could not control, it is the last act, to give up life at an age at which it must be enjoyed, at which experiences must begin to accumulate. Unfortunately, what is happening is that they have had many rather painful experiences throughout their lives.
- A suffering they usually hide.
- They don’t want to worry.
- They don’t want to look weak in front of those around them.
- They prefer to scream in silence and they’re afraid that someone will listen to them.
- Because they don’t know.
- Because they’re afraid the situation will happen to them.
- Worsen.
In many other cases, when they dare to tell adults what’s going on, they get answers that try to ignore what’s happening to them”Are these things for children?”There are even parents who can even encourage their children: “And you don’t know how to defend yourself. “
Other parents choose to change schools thinking that leaving abusers behind will put an end to the problem, not knowing that their children’s experiences can become the problem thereafter. Could this be just the beginning?
In this sense, the bad side of aggression, abuse and harassment is not the direct effect they have, but the imprint they leave, the feeling is that the world is out of control, that there are threats beyond their resources, that there is something in them that makes them laugh or laugh, or that they have little or no value to other children in their families.
This feeling grows even more when parents are absent, so previous thoughts add up to “I will disappear and no one will care. “
The parents of the children who do the damage often know what is going on, they do not accept that their child, whom they love so much, can cause this suffering, have not yet disassociated themselves from the image of childish innocence, when children can become more wicked than the worst adults.
They may have had some intuition about it, because they saw or heard how they meant some students, listened to some of the games they played, and, instead of censoring them, also participated in the fun.
They think that even though your child isn’t a model, it’s not bad either. “He does it for fun and really the other guy is an idiot. “”When we were kids, they did that to us too, and nothing happened. “This guy we laughed at today is a bank manager, so it wasn’t that bad either. In fact, I think we ended up helping.
People who think this have rarely asked this boy to mistreat and humiliate what he felt afterwards, and those who laughed as accomplices to the game either.
In that sense, it is as if what happened in childhood should be forgotten at that time, as if many of these abused people still do not feel cold in remembering some of these episodes, that is the bitter mark we mentioned earlier, the still drowned voices, the excuses that have not been made.
In this case, abusive parents of abusive children are the most likely to ignore their behavior. Somehow, by disapproval of his behavior, his own conviction is already intrinsic, and this step is not easy.
In any case, when news of this kind appears today, in many cases, unfortunately, there is not much to do for the victim, that’s when many people involved say they didn’t know what was going on, as if they could. take away some of their responsibilities. In that sense, really, worst of all, they didn’t know and should have known.