Has it ever happened to you that after a few years your partner’s different behaviors and habits start bothering you?Do you stop at the table, be so ironic? But if you look back, you know that person is like that, what happens is that everything went unnoticed, the reason is that we fall in love with an illusion.
The passion phase can wreak havoc, blind us and take away our minds to the point that we dream of being able to do something crazy about the other person, someone we consider perfect. But what we don’t realize is that it’s not real, this perfection exists only in our thoughts. Reality is altered by our emotions, expectations and illusions, but that’s not how we see it.
- When we think that a person has changed over time.
- What we should consider is whether we have seen it as it has been from the beginning.
- Chances are the answer is “no.
- “At the beginning of any relationship.
- We create an image that makes us perceive unparalleled beauty.
- Perfection and wonder.
No one is perfect, which we should assume. However, this image of the other person we create in our minds, the result of a deep passion, is part of our reality during this time, so we end up believing our own lie, ignoring any attitude that bothers us or that we do. I don’t like It In fact, this is one of the reasons why many people repeat models of harmful relationships.
? It’s better to be free. Better to be alone and walk on this pile of nothing, than to keep clinging to false illusions and wake up later in a handful of broken dreams. Edwin Vergara-
Joo was very confused and tired. I had doubts between continuing the relationship or ending it altogether. Everything exploded. Suddenly, it seemed like nothing pleased the other person. Your complaints, your quirks? Everything was contorted. I wanted to see the situation from a different perspective to see what was really going on, but he couldn’t do it.
What happened to Jeo was that at first everything was wonderful, he saw his partner as a beautiful, perfect, responsible and very good being, however, in time and not knowing very well why, everything changed, the person he fell in love with had a very bad day, which, for Joo, was unbearable. Mood swings, absurd complaints?
He wasn’t comfortable with the relationship or didn’t know how to handle what was going on outside, like stress at work, however, the problem was that when Joo talked to his friends about this situation, he seemed to refer to two totally different people. So much so that they didn’t really even exist, they weren’t real.
Joo did not see his partner as she was, he never saw her, at first the illusion he had with the relationship only allowed him to see someone perfect, his feelings prevented him from seeing faults. Now he didn’t see his partner as he was, his emotions stopped him again. He never really knew who he was with.
Being in love with an illusion prevents you from seeing the other person as they are.
Learning to see others as they are is difficult, but not impossible, is it true that with a friend we generally don’t have as many expectations as with a couple?The same goes for the brothers, if we have them, these people as they are, with their lights and shadows.
However, when we start a relationship with someone else, we usually only see their lights, but over time we focus only on their shadows, this creates a disorder and transforms the relationship in a very dramatic way.
The important thing is to be aware that when one falls in love, the image of the other deforms towards perfection, knowing that this happens and keeping it in mind during this period opens the door to another reality, in which the person is a set of lights and shadows. In addition, it is important to note that just as the other has certain attitudes and behaviors that we like, there will also be others that we do not share.
We shouldn’t blame ourselves for falling in love with an illusion, many of our beliefs about romantic love make it happen this way, but as soon as we realize that and we realize it, we can do something to change. in love with an illusion?