At the beginning of a relationship both strive to present the best version of themselves, so much so that affection and intimacy seem to be a matter of inertia, however, over time, the couple approaches and meets each other, because they feel more comfortable with each other, the true self of all begins to emerge and a comfort zone appears.
At this point, trust, security and comfort allow us to live the relationship in another dimension, for some this step can be an unpleasant discovery, a real disappointment, for others it can represent an opportunity to live a deeper and more authentic life. Relationship.
But when do you get to this comfort zone in a relationship, what are the signs that this is happening?
This idea of the comfort zone may seem a little negative, it seems boring, tedious, emotionless. Who wouldn’t want to feel the excitement and butterflies in the stomachs of the first few months, the first few times or the first discoveries?
However, getting there takes time. It is also possible to enjoy many of these moments of trust, when you discover that you feel completely at ease and free with your partner, in fact, if you do not reach this comfort zone, it is difficult to deepen and advance relationships.
Knowing if you’ve reached this comfort zone can help you assess the fundamentals of your relationship and make important decisions about the future, yours, and the couple’s future.
Recently, a survey revealed that relationships reach their comfort zone after 11 months and 24 days. After analyzing about 2,000 heterosexual couples, the researchers found that it took them almost a year to get used to sharing life and space with someone else.
According to this research, some of the key signs that the comfort zone has been reached in a relationship include, for example, allowing your partner to see you without “being dressed”, to see you when you are sick or not to close the bathroom door when you are inside. But those aren’t the only signs.
One study also found that a person who arrives in this comfort zone with his partner is able to talk openly with him about sensitive problems such as his breath stinks or that it would not be wrong if he used a little more deodorant, and this without the other. be offended. Without a doubt, they are topics for which it is necessary to have a lot of confidence both to say with love and to listen to the other.
One study also found that for a significant part of the couples studied (about a third), the other part felt comfortable very early, lowered the curtains in advance, thus losing the illusion of a perfect relationship (the one we know exists, but we cannot resist wanting). The study also found that, for the most part, it is men who settle down the fastest.
According to this study, other signs showing that a relationship is in the comfort zone are related to the type of clothing used (for example, wearing clothing that is normally used at home or the same underwear repeatedly). Other personal-looking problems (such as not so concerned about hair removal or shaving or not realizing that the other person hasn’t shaved or shaved) are also indicators.
Relationships begin to reach a comfort point when the couple relys on delicate health problems, when they rely on their most secret obsessions or don’t mind crying at each other, other topics like talking about marriage or children and talking comfortably about the past. relationships are also signs that a relationship is going well.
The study indicates that these signs indicate not only that a comfort zone has been reached, but it is also clear that the relationship will last a long time.
According to the interviewees, some might say that these signs may mean the end of the romance, but it is a good sign that you feel comfortable in the presence of your partner and that you can share with him any topic or concern without fear of trial. .
Isn’t that what we’re all looking for? If you’re not comfortable with your relationship after a while, it may be time to reconsider a few things.