A romantic relationship is based on love, respect, trust and reciprocity, so far they are things that we all know, but then why is it so difficult to maintain a romantic relationship or be happy together?
The answer to this question is that we basically do not know how to live together, couples have lasted a lifetime for a long time, and while it is true that the economic independence that women enjoy today has caused the separation of many couples, It is also true that tolerance – in a good way, not to mention any kind of abuse – was higher.
- When you’re in a romantic relationship.
- You have to keep your ego a little and accept the other as it is.
- As it has been chosen as a life partner.
The problem today is that we have become so demanding that we even intend to change the other person, its essence, and it doesn’t make sense.
If you don’t like the person you’re with, the best thing you can do is not waste any more time and part with them, but never try to change it.
First, because you can hardly do that: people don’t change overnight, let alone because the other wants it; second, because then you won’t be united with someone authentic and spontaneous, but with someone who acts in a way that satisfies you, which can lead to a myriad of lies and misunderstandings, which obviously won’t make the couple work better.
Unhappy relationships often have a number of features that are easy to detect:
As always, the demand is the mother of emotional discomfort, and in the field of sentimental relationships is no different, couples who are not working are often demanding, that is, they pretend that others act according to their opinion. It’s generating discussions to try to get the other one to behave differently, as well as fights to see who’s right.
The couple, in the end, did not come to a coherent conclusion, but to the wear and tear of the two members and the revolt.
Not tolerating, in a relationship, goes hand in hand with demand, since the person is not able to accept certain mistakes?Or things you consider mistakes? Your partner The person sometimes prefers to create wars for very small reasons rather than tolerate and even appreciate the imperfections of those who are supposed to love.
At the other end are those who tolerate too much, which is also not advisable and much less when the couple clearly harms the other.
It is one thing to accept that the other is not perfect and that sometimes it does not act as one would like, and another is to tolerate insults, disrespect, selfish or manipulative attitudes, if you tolerate all this, then the problem is with you. either because you have a dependent personality, because you think the other one is going to change, because you’re afraid of loneliness or because you won’t find someone else who loves you.
Couples should learn that their emotional state depends on themselves. Nobody has that much power or control over you, right?
Therefore, blaming the other for what you feel is creating an unfounded conflict in the couple, since the only one who can resolve your discomfort is yourself, the other does not provoke you, nor does it have the power to make you happy.
Unhappy couples are not united, that is, they are not friends, they do not reach consensus on their present and future, they are very independent in things that they should not be and sometimes too dependent on others.
Things like “Do you wash today because I washed yesterday?Is it your turn to pay today? They make sure that the romantic relationship doesn’t come back and, in the end, the couple ends up splitting up even more. “
Does being a team involve one? Playing here mentally, a “I’m here for what you need. “
It is about fighting together against adversity and enjoying life together, being similar and having common interests is also fundamental, because it is the engine of the desire to share time together.
Unhappy couples always argue about who’s right, as if the other one gave her?Victory? To argue more or less or to raise your voice more. Obviously, there’s no point in doing that, and it’s better to raise the problem. table and work together on how to solve it and how everyone can contribute to it.
Endless discussions, discussions, angry or disrespectful will not solve the problem, but it will create a new problem, which unfortunately ends up being worse than the first.