Since Aristotle said something like “Love consists of a soul that inhabits two bodies,” it seems that the concept of having a partner has adapted to this, yet what we generally do not remember is that he also said, “The most powerful man is this owner of himself. “
I am aware that both statements are out of context and that I do not know the extent to which Aristotle really has to do with them, but they serve to introduce the subject of this article: couple love can be very beneficial, but it is good to know that it is not necessary.
- Think about the following situation: we have a very important event in which we recommend dressing in a certain way.
- And where we will spend some time trying to choose the accessories that will go best with a certain outfit.
? I don’t want you to need me, I want you to trust me incessantly
and that it joins your house with mine ?.
? Elvira Sastre?
When we choose these types of supplements complement and improve what we wear, something similar happens, but even better, with the relationships we maintain, because what is improved is under our skin.
Accessories (having a relationship) are not necessary, but if we decide to have them, they will give us other characteristics that without them we would not have, they are like an aggregate: a relationship is an aggregate of experiences, support and lessons. sharing that can make us better people because we learn even when things don’t work out.
“Let me kiss you, now / they are not yet written on your skin / the lies of the world / and your lips only thirst for / beauty. / Because I just wanted to be / good and true, / and you can do me, / let me hug you. ?
-Juan Antonio González Iglesias-
Having a relationship, in fact, is fortunate when and when relationship members respect their emotional independence and spaces, because that’s how we need to realize and grow, that is, there are two different lives in a relationship that require their individualized attention to progress together.
When we realize that we are happy with our loneliness and that no one needs us to be happy, we understand the importance of these ideas, in fact, it often happens that the more someone wants to be close to us, the more we run away, because we feel measured and even a little abused.
In other words, love is not rational, but we need a little head if we want the idea of having a relationship to last. To want to be with someone means to understand that one day that person can leave and that we will continue, painful, but everything.
Couple love is not an addiction or an obsession, although in the first months of relationship it may seem like this: we immerse ourselves in a cloud in which time and space merge, there are many reasons and reasons to share everything with the couple.
The truth is that obsessions are unhealthy and can lead us to toxic relationships, in which we stop valuing ourselves to live in a false world oblivious to the true face of things, blindfolded with illusions.
In this sense, if we decide to start a relationship it is because we believe that we are prepared for it: fall in love with someone and continue to cultivate self-love. Do we choose to start and end because we belong to no one and no one belongs to us?although sometimes we can think so.
? One thing I can swear
I fell in love with his wings,
I don’t ever want to take them off.
-Carlos Miguel Cortés-