Until recently it was believed that everyone wanted to find a partner and have children. This has changed radically. In the West, the decision not to have offspring has become a trend. Many men and women don’t want or prefer not to have children.
There are many reasons for those who are participating in this trend, ranging from personal desire to the idea that bringing new lives contributes to the social and ecological imbalance of the world; in any case, the fact is that the taboo is becoming less and less around this decision, and this applies to virtually every society in the world.
“These are difficult times, don’t children obey their parents and everyone writes books?-Ciceron-
The result of this option that has gained followers is clearly shown in the age pyramids of most developed countries: we are entering a world where more and more older people are becoming less and less young.
In some countries, the birth rate is much lower than it was 20 years ago. This, combined with the increase in life expectancy, informs us about the aging of societies. Is the decision not to have children a responsible logic or is it nothing more than a huge demonstration of the selfishness that prevails today?
Many think and argue with arguments that having children takes away their freedom and involves complications, creating takes a while that many people are not willing to invest, for them to have a child and educate them is not interesting and, on the contrary, exhausting. , only profession and social life are sufficient to make sense of life, or children are not worth it for the investment involved in their responsible education.
According to a survey conducted in Europe and titled? No children in Europe?(2015), the reasons for not having children are mostly professional, however, economic reasons, past experiences of bad relationships with parents and/or fear of transmitting inherited diseases also matter.
Another survey conducted by the Federation of Families in Finland indicates that in recent years economic difficulties have become the main reason for not having children, job insecurity and uncertainty about the future are interfering with what this perception has expanded.
On the other hand, when it comes to who is happier: those who decide to have children or those who do not, the University of Western Ontario in Canada has concluded that there is no definitive answer, apparently the issue is closely related to age. . For the youngest, having children reduces their happiness, for those over 30, on the contrary, the perception is neutral, and for those over 40, a child is a great source of joy.
There is no general answer as to whether or not to have children, every person and especially every couple has to make their own decision, one thing is certain: it is important to think about it and try not to make mistakes. an unintentionally child can be truly devastating; on the contrary, frustrated the desire to be a father finally creates a huge existential void.
The conditions are almost never perfect for reproduction, ideally there is a stable couple, with sufficient income, who has time and explicit desire to be parents, it is very difficult for all these variables to be present at the same time. However, this does not mean that it is impossible to make adjustments and adaptations to receive a new life, in fact, these adjustments have always been made: large families, usual a few years ago, have been able to survive with fewer resources.
Still, it is important to know where the desire to have a child comes from, in some chaos, this is a misperception or a bad interest, there are many couples in conflict who can be deceived by the idea that a child will improve their relationship. There are also those who are frustrated with their own lives and want to have offspring to achieve the achievements they have not been able to achieve. In both cases, the chances of failure are numerous.
We are increasingly free to decide who and how to define our own family. This is a big step forward. But it is also a situation that raises new concerns and uncertainties. The important thing here, as in other cases, is to cultivate the ability to hear the message that dwells deep in our hearts.
In this sense, having a child will always be a challenge, education and the creation of a new life or several are not a simple process: it involves facing several social, natural and, above all, those who present their own children. In this challenge, there are certainly endless hidden reasons to grow and, why not, enjoy it too.