Psychological palliative care in the face of a terminal illness
Everyone, to a greater or lesser extent, has already felt heartbroken, this experience of losing something important can happen in many situations, not just those of love.
- Some may have fallen in love with someone who did not respond.
- Others have seen how their important romantic relationship ended.
- Or may have been heartbroken by the loss of a beloved friendship.
People describe a broken heart as a feeling of sadness, bitterness, disappointment, emptiness, pain.
I met a boy who told me that he couldn’t forget his ex-fiancée, and that even though he knew there was no chance of going back to her, he’d be with no one anymore, it was a symptom that he refused to cure his life. broken heart.
Whenever we go through these bad situations it is always possible to start from scratch, but to do so you have to be prepared to do so and take the necessary steps.
If you close your sadness and close your heart, you will have let a bad experience ruin your entire love life in the future.
I started asking him what he was thinking, to tell me why he thought he’d never find another girl to share his life with. If bad thoughts are not eliminated, it will not be possible to move on.
This kind of thinking is universal and totally false, if you have met passionate people who have lost what they had, or if you have lived it in the flesh, you will see that many say this phrase: “I will never find someone like you. “”.
Of course, where there is love, you are sure that this person is unique throughout the world and that you will never love another person, but that is a very bad thing. Over time, eliminating feelings and meeting new people, you realize that there are many types of people and that you can find someone who looks like what you wanted.
The guy I mentioned earlier said to me, “There’s no one like her. “Of course, we’re all unique, but the profile of someone who’s fallen in love with him still exists in more people. I asked him. ” Since the end of your relationship, have you met other girls?”And did he say?
We see clearly that the problem of thinking that there will be no one is in ourselves, if we do nothing to continue meeting new people, we will not be able to find other people we like, of course there are people that we might like. , but we have to open up and try to get to know them.
If we do nothing, the wrong phrase will be fulfilled that we will never know someone like him, but it will be because we close completely.
1. Leave the memories behind: It is important to make the decision to leave the memories behind, do not look at photos of you, show objects that look like the other person, and do not contact them by any means, or via the internet, sms, phone, etc.
The phrase: “Hands full, won’t you get anything new?” It’s the truth. If you keep in touch with the person you care about, you can’t have eyes for someone else, so make the decision to close the door and make way for the new one to come.
Stay busy: there is no better remedy than to keep your mind busy, especially by doing what you love, it is forbidden to do nothing, because lack of action brings frustration, so even if you have nothing to do, go out to practice a sport, occupy your hours with a course, an activity, an exit, etc. ?
3. Meet new people: social relationships bring a lot of satisfaction, if you know new people and the right people with which you have a connection, you will realize that life can always start from scratch and that the best way is to start with your social relationships.
4. Take care: this is a very important part of recovering from emotional pain, when the heart suffers, we are under more stress, so we must take care of ourselves more than ever, adopting a healthy life with a balanced diet. , a good rest with stable schedules and regular physical activity.
Patience and acceptance: everything in this life is ephemeral and emotional pain would be no different, continue your way even if you have a broken heart, carrying all this pain but still walking, patiently, knowing that it is a passing thing that will heal over the days. Accept acceptance knowing that life is like this: sometimes it is wonderful, but at other times you have to suffer.
Many people feel unable to cope with the pain of a broken heart face to face, then they fall into alcohol, drugs, they start to have unbalanced lifestyles, they eat badly, etc.
All these bad attitudes are nothing but escapes from reality, so the pain will not heal, but it will gradually mask and destroy, not only will you continue with the emotional pain, but you will have added other problems. that will harm your health.
The smartest way out of emotional pain is to deal with it in a healthy way: take care, accept, open new doors and let the pain fade as the days go by.
It is braver who decides to face heartbreak than those who resort to an unhealthy life to mask pain.
In addition, those who manage to overcome a broken heart in a healthy way, taking care of their health and accepting this negative situation, will have acquired tools and learnings that contribute to their personal development and emotional stimulation.
Images courtesy of Seyed Mostafa Zamani and D. Sharon Pruitt.