Henko or ???? it is a Japanese word that refers to a transformative change in which there is no possibility of returning to its original state, this is usually a big step forward in our personal growth and proof that we are able to bet on ourselves, being precisely a reflection of this act of bravery. We are talking about this turning point that elevates us above fear and anxiety, transforming our vital attitude.
In addition to what you might think, few words have concepts as basic, but at the same time as important as henko. Having the ability to transform, evolve, advance and expand the level of consciousness is the secret to overcoming obstacles, dissolving discouragement and being strengthened in situations that are presented to us. Henko is a representation of the fruit of resilience.
- “In life it’s like this at every important moment: you have to give up a part of who you are to be who you really can be.
- Change is not free.
- Of course.
- And only feeds us if it leads to transformation.
- ?Alex Rovira-.
Much of our difficulties would be solved if we introduced a henko, a transformative change in our lives, the problem is that, most of the time, we are unwilling, we do not know how to do this or we are afraid of the new. .
We know, for example, that some people prefer to stay in their comfort zone, following the same coping strategies, even if they do not feel well; in fact, sometimes these people make a real effort because there is no change that would otherwise happen naturally.
The truth is that we are all afraid of the unknown, to which we cannot foresee, which is beyond our calculations and, therefore, of our control.
For this reason, when we misunderstream fear, we end up consumed and emotionally exhausted, this is because we have chosen to get used to it and preserve our comfort zone rather than accept change, in this sense, there can be several reasons for it. transformation, but they are all irrelevant if there is no element in the background: conviction, desire, motivation.
Thus, the risk is printed on our being. On the other hand, we must tolerate this risk to some extent in order to move forward: suppose there will be a time when none of our feet will touch the ground.
However, we cannot be confused: not all mutations can transform us, sometimes we change to the same level that we find ourselves, that is, we make a change of first order, so in a short time we find ourselves immersed in the same dynamic. .
To grow, to start a new path, you have to introduce a change to a higher level or a change of second order, as Paul Watzlawick would say, but what does that mean?
Experts in system theories consider that there are two opposing trends in change, the first would have to do with maintaining a stable state and the second with the production of new forms, both derived from mathematical theory of logical types.
Austrian psychologist Paul Watzlawick called these trends change 1 or first order and change 2 or second order, respectively. To explain both trends, he used the following example: “A person has a nightmare, can do many things in the nightmare: run, hide, scream, etc. , but none of these behavioral changes will end the nightmare.
Thus, this exchange rate is called change 1. C i. e. these are changes and strategies that have to do with the same dynamic that the person is in and that are based on negative comments.
On the other hand, there is also a change of type 2, which is given qualitatively and is based on positive feedback, that is, it increases the gaps and paves the way for the formation of new structures, if we take into account the above. for example, it would be the awakening of sleep. The only way out of the nightmare would be a change of sleep, that is, a change of reality, of perspective.
Another example can be found in a consultation: a child’s parents seek psychological help because their child’s academic performance has dropped, they have certainly already taken steps before seeking help, such as punishing the child, reducing after-school activities, or dating friends.
These would be Type 1 changes, the problem is that they could not solve the situation, however, the therapist, after analyzing and interviewing the different members of the family, finds that grandma and older sister went to live in the house and that this changed the dynamics. of relations between all members. The way you relate to the family needs to be changed to accommodate the new situation.
Perhaps we can better understand if we think about the following: the person has begun to feel sad, apathetic, unmotivated and melancholy, in his attempt to improve he decided to enroll in the gym, go out more and do creative activities, that is. , all of these changes are type 1.
The problem is that, despite all this, she couldn’t feel well, but more distracted What can she do?Introduce a Type 2 change: change your point of view, your view of reality and deal with your feelings, this will really allow you to make a transformative change.
“Change is inevitable, is change for the better a job of total dedication?. – Adlai E. Stevenson-
As we have seen, change is a multidimensional phenomenon, especially if we want to provoke a henko, so it is not enough to want to change and implement different actions, we must first analyze what perspective we have about what is going on.
We may think that our vision of reality is right and that the world must bow and behave according to our precepts, but how can we be so sure?
Isn’t it true that, in the face of the same event, two people can observe it and explain it differently?The truth is that each of us builds and works with our own particular, individual and barely changing reality. So why not investigate other visions to solve what afflicts us?
It’s not easy. It’s true. But precisely because of its complexity, it is necessary to interpret very calmly the encouragement of this concept. Challenging our worldview is not something we can do in a short time and, in fact, we will only be satisfied when we are in harmony with our intrinsic vision. nature, which is free from worries, fears and distortions, so true well-being is only possible after overcoming our ego.
A transformative change, a henko, is an exercise in courage in which we face ourselves, our community, the projects we have been building for years, the ideas that once made our lives easier.
In this sense, we are the most complicated adversary, but also the one that can give us the most teachings and the one that gives us the opportunity to empower ourselves without getting carried away by their traps and their mental games.
Finally, even if change is a constant in our universe, and if your consciousness serves to evolve, the important thing is to illuminate the paths that serve as growth, nourishing us with learning and encouragement for all that we have to discover.
A henko is an opportunity to be reborn through calm and mental strength.