You do this often: you hide your emotions. It’s really our custom, to silence what hurts, to suppress anxiety, fears and even rage. Gradually this cover-up is no longer functional to generate blockages and, with them, put barriers to one’s health, spontaneity and personality. Growth.
Now, far from assuming this behavior as a personal feature, let’s think about it. We have been taught for centuries from the point of view that in our world the most important thing is reason. What did Descartes tell us? (I think, that’s how I am) orchestrates all the steps, where emotions are conceived as a stigma or as something that somehow separates us from the civilized.
“Walk like a lion, talk like pigeons, live like elephants and love like a child. “Santosh Kalwar
Perhaps that is why we teach children that crying is synonymous with immaturity and that it will always be better to swallow sadness, we tell them that everyone who gets angry and responds to what they don’t like or just doesn’t believe they have no education. We tell them to laugh gently, because the one who laughs with laughter is considered a madman. We explain that emotions, and especially their manifestation, are synonymous with weakness, not the potential to understand and appreciate.
We feel that we exist, it is the simple reality, a feeling, an emotion gives us life and gradually suppressing it takes it away, hiding your emotions is a way of hurting you, because in reality these internal universes are the ones that give direction to your desires, steps to your needs, to know how to act in every situation.
We could say now that we have all come into this world with incredible potential to be happy, this idea is not false, however, it has delicate nuances that it is important to dismember, our genetics, as well as our social and family environment, In many cases, does this even lay the foundation for our potential to evolve more easily on this scale inhabited by emotions such as optimism , resilience, joy?
Thus, much of the emotional suffering that we sometimes endure almost without knowing why it comes from this psychic and emotional structure, was born at very early stages of our life cycle, we are educated not only in norms and knowledge, but also in emotions. And it is precisely this last aspect, the emotional one, that largely determines our quality of life, our human potential.
This emotional mishandle often leads us to distort many internal realities, sometimes we think, for example, that an emotion is like an option present in a menu that we can choose or discard as we please and at will (-> today I am disappointed but I choose to show happiness). These internal dynamics don’t work like this: because emotions can’t be put off; they do not die, but become psychosomatic diseases and discomfort.
Emotions are impulses, instincts with a specific purpose and purpose, leaving them aside is to close the door to an internal reality that, well understood, managed and guided, would allow us to invest in well-being. on the contrary, it is to form a mark of discomfort capable of laying the foundation for various mental disorders.
Hiding your emotions comes at a huge cost. You may think things will get better with that, get better because no one feels your anxiety, because you integrate without attracting attention, because nothing changes, because you can remain productive, but how long are you going to be able to keep this mask??
We already know that the solution is not to suppress, it is not to hide or act as if emotion is not present, emotional energy is present, survives and remains. So the key is to let it flow. To better understand how to handle our emotions, we can use three simple metaphors.
It would therefore be about knowing how to properly channel each of our emotions, moving with them, saying what bothers us when it bothers us, reacting when time demands it, being affirmative and agile in the face of daily pressures. make our emotions a perfect engine of harmony for our lives, not a piece that slows us down.