Adults with high skills or intellectual talent do not always know that they have this characteristic, as they spend their childhood atypically, it is common to reach maturity feeling excluded, disconnected from a somewhat stimulating, rigid and monotonous reality.
All these people with brilliant minds do not achieve professional success and even happiness.
- Calvin Coolidge.
- The thirtieth president of the United States.
- Said the biggest problem for the company is that it doesn’t have a chance to prove its true potential.
It has been almost 100 years since this sentence was handed down, however, this same problem persists despite all scientific, social and psychological advances.
Celebrities like Carol S. Dweck, a professor of psychology at Stanford, point out that we still believe that smart people have guaranteed success. However, it is often observed that high-capacity adults and gifted children live with the eternal feeling that “there is something wrong with them. “
In their daily lives, they face dissonance. Contradictions between what they feel and what others express. Distances between what they are looking for and what they are offered.
They feel, in turn, that the world is too rigid and structured and that their mind is too curious, stimulating, and nonconformist.
All these internal realities define adults with high skills who need adequate advice and effective mechanisms to build a more fulfilling life.
“If you work hard enough, impose, use your mind and imagination, you can shape the world according to your desires. “Malcolm Gladwell?
There is one aspect that we must clarify first: there is no cause and effect reality that shows that all gifted children will be unhappy adults or successful adults with a high level of well-being.
Like everyone else, it all depends on the environment, a more or less emotional education, having received the right curriculum adjustments at school, being harassed or having a childhood with a good social circle.
Therefore, highly trained adults do what they can in their lives based on their personal situation. One thing to keep in mind, however, is that if we do not feed these exceptional gifts from the beginning, they may not thrive at full capacity.
So let’s look at the characteristics that generally define high-capacity adults.
Highly qualified adults can take up good positions and can have a job for a living. However, there is something that fails, something out of tune in this daily lack of goals, in this monotonous and grey life.
Highly qualified adults have a long history of disappointments, they are profiles with high values, with a strong sense of justice, these dimensions make them frustrated by a reality that does not correspond to their projects.
The studies, published in the journal Behavioral Science, led by Dr. Francis Heylighen, provide a complete summary of the daily problems facing high-capacity adults.
One idea that is often assumed, when in fact it does not correspond to reality, is that this personality lacks social skills.
Let us think that they grew up, in many cases, surrounded by people with those with who had no affinity, who did not share their interests, who did not see the world in the same way, which prevented socialization with the necessary quality.
When they reach adulthood, they continue to experience social gaps, they want that emotional and, above all, intellectual connection, in which passions set the same goals.
Moreover, do you want relationships in which interests share the same spaces as complicity, the need to learn and challenge the established, to bring something else to the world?
As we see, this group in our society still needs many answers, strategies and changes.
Early detection in children, as well as psychological support in adults, can facilitate the path not only to achieve their personal expectations, but also to achieve well-being and happiness.