Life has taught me that holding on can sometimes be dangerous, sticking to what we know, what we’re used to, it’s relatively easy, but even if it hurts, you have to let time pass.
After all, focusing on something or someone and transforming that object or person in need has consequences. To live attached, surrounded by “essential things” and beliefs that convince us of what makes us truly happy is to strengthen our ego. He’s enslaving our well-being until we destroy him.
- Because nothing from the outside.
- Not even a person.
- Will give us happiness.
- No matter how much we believe in it.
- Not even a dream come true.
Moreover, living from the past is also not the right way, because even if nostalgia inspires and enriches us, surviving from memories remains a form of attachment.
They can’t be seen or touched, but they exist in our minds and there’s nothing more dangerous than being too attached to an idea to support it, especially if it hurts. So grabbing yourself does more harm than letting go?
Holding on to an object, thought, or person creates suffering
What makes you happy? Think about it, what’s critical on your list to be happy?A couple, a house, work whatever you want, be number one or at least stand out from the first?Or maybe you have kids?
In any case, I would like you to give it some serious thought. Do you need all of this to be happy? What else do you want: the object, the dream, the person or the feeling that results from knowing that things, in a way, belong to you?
Often, and unknowingly, we create a list of conditions that link to the concept of happiness, a series of expectations that shape an ideal world that, for a few moments, we believe real, the problem is that we have automated it so much that we have come to believe it.
“When I get a job, will I become a freelancer, when I’m independent, will I finally be able to devote my time to what I love, will I find a partner and be very happy with him?a house together ?? Here are just a few examples.
Thus, what was once a dream becomes a reality that we want to realize, we direct all our efforts and, when this does not happen, when all this collapses or circumstances do not go as we imagine, discomfort becomes present, at the same time. time as we continue to desire the ideal of happiness we had created.
Now we must not only face our thoughts, which remind us that we are not so valid or so good, but also our emotions: anger, anger, disappointment, frustration, resentment. invented needs.
Conditioning our state of mind to objects, dreams and people is expensive, and nobody has taught us to do that, quite the opposite.
We are continuously bombarded with ads that show us how we can be “happy and realized”. Take a look at the media.
If you cling to something or someone, to an idea of what things should be like, these are the seeds of suffering. Because nothing is permanent, just change.
Because rigidity leads to paralysis, wear and tear of discomfort. Or do you think it’s the same as seven years ago?I’m sure you don’t.
Therefore, ignoring impermanence and clinging to objects, ideas and people aims at unhappiness. “A person can’t swim twice in the same river, ” said Herolito, and was absolutely right. Is it water or are we the same?
However, this does not mean that we should live free without worrying about anything, but that we must pay attention to how we relate to others and objects, and in particular to our minds.
In this way, we will be able to identify when we are on our way to turning something or someone into a necessity.
Let go, say goodbye or let go. There are several names for the practice of detachment, which frees us from the needs and breaks the molds we create with the intention of being happy.
Letting go is a process of growth and transformation that only happens when we learn that nothing is eternal and that everything changes, is respect for the life cycle and the understanding that there are things that, even if we want, cannot happen, but others things will happen.
To let go is to know that thoughts are changing and that what was good for us yesterday is not so good today, it is about cultivating a flexible mind and trained to face new circumstances, preparing the heart to free those who can no longer be with us. us, and freeing up affections rooted in a particular object or situation.
That is not to say that they are not important to us, but that they are not necessary conditions for us to be happy, however difficult it is at first.
Getting unhooked from attachment is the path of balance, the midpoint and the liberation of the ego, it is the path that allows us to work from within with ourselves to get to know each other.
An act of bravery that allows us to overcome the barriers of our comfort zone and lose the fear of living dependent on what we cling to in excess.
To let go is to consider loss as a fundamental part of life, to practice acceptance, to cultivate a flexible mind and an honest heart, because life is change, but also movement, and we must not forget it.