Being a mother and father is a challenge, it is today and always has been, and there is no foolproof formula not to make mistakes, but there is an ingredient that must be included in all recipes to educate children: love. Love is part of a cocktail, things are much more likely to go well. And better.
But what differentiates a good boy from a bad boy, what meter do we use to judge whether things are going well or wrong?Obedience and good behavior? If there is love you will have no doubt, because when you invest love in relationships, you find joy, peace and tranquility, and if we talk about your children, that is even more true.
- A lot of people may have been offended by this.
- We all love our children.
- Of course.
- But loving a child is not the same as raising him with love.
- Also.
- Raising children with love requires something that today’s parents don’t always have: Connect with them Keep in mind that connecting is not the same as being in their presence.
When you connect with your children, you see them differently, one way or another they are more human, they are no longer a project to become people with current skills, they are no longer a task to be a part of you. Their problems become your problems, your worries, your worries and their world, your world.
Did you ever feel when you were a kid or teenager that you were a stranger in a place where you didn’t integrate, where you weren’t taken seriously, where only your parents’ opinions and expectations were valid?It’s disconnection. Your parents loved you, of course, but they weren’t related to you. If you don’t know what it’s about, congratulations! I’m sure you won’t have any trouble connecting with your kids.
At certain times it seems difficult to connect with children, but there is nothing you can achieve if you put love, a lot of love, love without conditions, without restrictions, without expectations.
Fatherhood and motherhood tend to reveal many of our insecurities, it is not fair that we project our frustrations on our children, that we try to guide their future so that they reach where we have not been able to reach, they are different people. of us and will probably have different aspirations, in this way helping them achieve their aspirations, not ours, is one of the most beautiful gifts we can offer them.
Think that if you love yourself as you are, you will renew faith in yourself and also your children, as you will give them the best version of yourself, who you really are. The relationship between the family will develop from sincerity, pride and hope. Your children don’t need a superhero as a father, they just need parents who love them as children and how they really are.
Love brings security, trust and hope. If you offer love to others, you offer everything else; If you offer yourself love, the effects on you and what you offer to others will multiply; only by loving yourself can you love others, including your children.
Love transforms everything, because it’s the main difference between a happy child and a stressful child. Any difficult situation can be transformed with love. And there are many such situations that can occur throughout the day.
To start implementing love in your children’s education, the first step is to imagine connecting with them, close your eyes and feel this deep and intense love grow in you, feel the warmth and warmth emanating from love, consider this image for a minute. If you do this multiple times, you can program yourself for love and integrate it into you as a way to see the relationship with your children.
Now, speaking of the real relationship with your children, look at the situation every time you start a tense situation with them. Recognize the situation and recognize yourself. Identify how you feel and analyze your reaction. Do you think love and affection are the basis of this way of acting?If the answer is no, try to remember the image we mentioned in the previous paragraph. Look at the situation from a new perspective, perspective, there’s always more than one way to interpret and deal with a situation.
If you’re angry and irritated, don’t try to guide your child in that direction. Don’t intervene when you’re in the middle of a storm of negative feelings. You can’t control a situation if you can’t control yourself. If you want to connect with your child, you’ll first need to connect with yourself. Give yourself love and only then offer yourself this love.
On the other hand, keep in mind that humans connect better through physical contact. Kiss your children, caress them, fill them with kisses. You don’t have to have a reason or a reason. On the other hand, as they get older, it’s easy for contact to decrease: but don’t give up, don’t forget skin-to-skin contact.
Also remember that the game is a powerful connecting weapon that promotes not only contact, but also dialogue, complicity and interaction. Play with your kids whenever you can. You don’t have to organize anything special. A simple pillow fight or any kind of impromptu career can do a lot.