Hostility is an attitude of contempt towards one or more people with the conscious intention of harming, this intention can be achieved in different ways, it can exist in secret, in the form of gossip and defamation, or more explicitly, with verbal or physical attacks.
Hostility is an unpleasant emotional experience. Indeed, it is not the result of a situation of opposition, war or competition, it is a feeling that is addressed to those who have been our loving companion, friend or brother, in what was supposed to be “a field of peace”.
- The best way to understand hostility is to feel it.
- A situation that is rarely forgotten.
- The feeling of being the object of attacks against which one can hardly defend oneself because it is indirectly affected and not very frankly generates great discomfort.
- Especially if these injuries are caused by someone important to us.
Hostility feels like
Here are some examples of how hostility can be noticed. There are many forms of hostile behavior. Obviously, any hostile behavior has different intensities and ways of presenting.
In many cases, the element that sustains the hostility is the lack of social skills, there is anger or resentment, but the person is not in a position to start or maintain an open and honest dialogue about what happened, so the energy of anger or irritation with hostility.
However, this attitude is not honest. Far from building, destroying, far from building bridges, weakens them. In many cases, it is reasonable not to want to prolong a relationship, but it is unreasonable to do so much damage until the separation occurs.
We usually find it difficult to empathize with someone who behaves hostilely, but sometimes it’s not about empathy, but about incentivizing reflection and recommending psychological help, intervention by a third party can channel different anger or irritation through hostility and resentment.
Let’s see what some of the causes of open or manifest hostility may be:
Therefore, if you are the goal of this hidden and unresolved anger, it is ideal to stop for a second and choose a path that is not imbued with hostility, in this sense professional help is always valuable.