Chronic pain is one of the products of the modern world, in the past these cases were very rare, but today its incidence has increased, there are those who suffer from it because they have a disease, also chronic, others, however, suffer from it. of intense and persistent pain for which science has not been able to find a direct cause. The worst thing is that in any case, life can become a real hell in which the pain never went away.
Just a few decades ago, serious illnesses caused relatively rapid deterioration and people died without drugs. Today science has many ways to prolong the life of a seriously ill person, some diseases have also appeared or become exacerbate, most of them coming from the nervous system, the result is that many people can live several years sick and with a high degree of suffering.
“Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. -Bouddha-
Physical pain is one of the most common manifestations of almost all diseases and some of these pains are quite disabling. You can’t abstract them, you can’t ignore them. Live to feel these pains or to try to get around them palliatively with sedatives so powerful that they cut many channels that are used for internal communication with their own body and with the outside world and leave you feeling like you, even if you are. No.
It’s a tragic situation. Not only for those with chronic pain, but also for those who accompany it, pain severely affects mood and, over time, generates major personality changes, sometimes someone in this condition becomes intractable. And those who are with you often don’t know how to improve a loved one’s situation, so today we want to help you with some important aspects.
If you’re next to someone with chronic pain, it’s normal that you start to feel guilty, you don’t realize it, but you do, you see someone suffer and you can only provide palliative care that doesn’t always work. receives the burden of pain, but you can’t do much about it.
All of this creates great anxiety. They feel strong feelings of helplessness. There is often also the illusion that there is something else that can be done. You try something, then something else, but in the end you can only offer temporary relief at best.
The first thing I’m telling you is that you’re trying to alleviate the feeling of helplessness, drawing strength from these things that take time and don’t work, it’s important that you’re well informed of everything that can be done and that you know the limits. Your thing is to do, in the best way, everything in your power. In addition, any force used will return you in the same way as a bullet when thrown against the wall.
Sometimes all you can do is be there, quietly. In this way, you communicate that you are by your side and that you are willing to accept your suffering. What you can’t do is delete it. It may be enough to ask yourself what you can help and, if possible, do so. In many cases, for example, the person would prefer their business for a longer period of time, rather than looking for alternatives or working to try to compensate for their pain with expensive gifts.
We cannot give the other something that we do not have ourselves, it is about bringing greater well-being to the person who suffers a chronic pain, not the other way around: entering and immersing himself in the discomfort of the other. The first responsibility you have is to yourself, and that responsibility is to be good, in the best possible way.
This means recognizing your own needs. You can certainly give that person a lot, but there are also a multitude of things you can’t do for him, neither you nor anyone else. What can be done is to strengthen, stand firm, and improve your life so that it does improve the lives of others.
In particular, it is important that you learn to protect your own spaces, do you have to know how to say that?No, under certain circumstances, a person with chronic pain may end up sucking too much, you can also try to put your own frustrations on you, this person is faced with a very difficult situation and sometimes will have no other channel to blame you. or demand more than you can give. All of this is understandable, but it doesn’t mean that when you complain, you’re right or that you’re like you’re described in times of anger.
This will help you a lot to learn to recognize when it is necessary to separate the situation, being kind and kind will make the person understand that they can also contribute to their well-being, respecting their spaces when they are not. It depends on your own well-being to be able to provide healthy and firm support to those who are suffering, even if this person denies you or tries to infect you with their bad mood, their presence and good humor are certainly a balm for their life Remember this.