The grumpy, the whining, the whining, the whining and the enraged, that person who almost always frowns, who can’t take anything and who seems to go to eat alive to anyone who dares to counter it is, in fact, an individual who suffers.
Suffering has many faces; you can express it with tears, sleep or overeat, be anxious most of the time, or even mask that feeling with rage.
- But if we meet a grumpy man.
- He will impose some respect and estating on us.
- For that is precisely what he expects of us.
- Which helps this person to momentarily put weight on his ego.
- Which.
- As we said above.
- Is completely damaged.
Growls struggle to tolerate everyday problems and get angry when things go the way they don’t want to. This generates rage, which they usually project on others, and generally unpleasant for those who cross their path.
They often complain all the time, but they don’t come up with an effective solution, so in the end they end up exhausting and exhausting the people around them by hindering social relations, in complaints these people often blame themselves, the victims, and all this is always exaggerated.
Grumpy people are people who, far from looking for realistic and functional solutions, prefer to complain and spend most of their time angry at what is not under their control, however, they miss opportunities that are under their control and are rarely responsible because, as we mentioned, they tend to think that others should act in a certain way with them or that life must be different from what it is.
These behaviors, like almost everyone else, are often learned by family, movies, books, or any other message they have received in childhood, grumpy man memorizes and repeats this behavior throughout his life, without wondering whether it is beneficial or not. Genetics influences, most of the time, the grumpy is not born, but is “created”.
This is extremely relevant, because if you have learned to be so, you can also unlearn, even if it is complicated by the automation of human behavior.
The grumpy usually presents itself with a serious appearance, with the face of some friends, frowning and does not usually look into the eyes when talking to other people, verbal language is threatening, imposing their opinions as the only truth without hearing what the other person has to say.
In addition, the tone is generally strong, energetic and gives a sense of nervousness, closely related to the Standard of Type A behavior, which in turn is related to cardiovascular disorders.
All we’ve just seen is part of a grumpy person we might meet someday. Basically, in the grumpy there is a wonderful person, an inner child who wants to play and have fun.
What happens is that people learn certain dysfunctional beliefs throughout their life, take hold of them and guide their life through them, which creates confusion, increases their egos, makes them demanding? So the secret to turning off growling is being able to turn off your inner child, but how do we do it?
Love is the most powerful weapon that can exist and means understanding, affection, a little humor, smiles and good treatment, so if we want to disable a grumpy person with what he has at hand, the first step is to leave the ego at home.
This means that we don’t have to feel bad or affected if that person despises us or uses an aggressive tone with us. Always remember that you are a confused person and that you are acting wrong.
It also helps to understand that someone who is in a bad mood is, in essence, a fragile person who did not manage the problems of his life and who is not generally happy. Here we already use a part of love: understanding.
Try it and you will see how it works, since we all like to be treated well, to let others laugh at us and love us.
Use humor with these people, not to make fun of them, of course, but for everyday situations that annoy them. It is often helpful to have someone around you who can take that happy note of what is happening to us or who is simply able to dramatize a situation.