Anxiety is a difficult problem not only for those who suffer from it, but also for those around them, it is not always possible to classify an anxious person as having a disease, but you have to know how to live with them.
Kindness can be a bit exhausting and require a lot of energy. We are not all willing to spend our lives with someone who is very demanding; who gets angry and gets frustrated easily, who reacts badly when things don’t go the way she wants and that she can even blame us for everything that happens to her.
Anxiety is the mind that goes faster than life
? Claudio Maria Dominguez?
Anxious people are often very impulsive, talk without thinking, don’t plan things too much and have problems with their intimate relationships (whether as a couple, in friendship or between family members).
If you’re living with someone whose anxiety has exceeded normal limits, don’t make the mistake of retracting yourself by leaving the person alone with their problem, if this person is important to you, stay by your side without any major problems, using some of the ideas we’ll give you in this article.
It also doesn’t mean you have to tell the person everything at the same time, but maybe it would be nice if you understood that an anxious person has an imbalance, for some reason, and that most of your reactions aren’t rational. putting yourself in the person’s place will help reassure her.
The secret, as always in a relationship, is to develop a sense of understanding, pay attention to these tips that can help you live with an anxious person:
Keep in mind that behind anxiety there’s something else hidden, it’s certain that your partner, friend or child has many good things about your personality that can counteract the evil of your anxiety.
We can all have times when we feel more pressured or nervous, but then we can be calm and affectionate, so it is important that you look beyond the anxiety of the person and value the positive qualities of the person.
When we are anxious, our brain cannot rest or disconnect, we are attentive to everything that happens around us and we cannot rest easy, this state is overwhelming. If, moreover, the person lives in a hostile or very demanding environment, things can get worse, how about inviting your partner to a weekend alone in the countryside or on the beach?
It’s not enough to say “I understand you, you’re anxious. ” You need to accompany the person more actively. This means that when the person has an anxiety attack, you should help them think more rationally. Together, they can draw the best conclusions and solve many problems. And so the anguish will disappear!
Your own requirements are sufficient. If, in addition to being overwhelmed by the situation, their nerves and anxiety, the anxious person receives more responsibility from another or wants to calm down, things won’t work out. Don’t hide behind a ‘Forget’, ‘Relax’, ‘Sleep’, because the more orders you give, the worse the person will feel.
If you notice that the other person is trying to reduce your anxiety level and the results are minimal (but there are), congratulate the person, tell them they are doing very well, make them feel supported and recognized for their dedication.
Be very patient, especially when improvements are gradual and slow. Remember that any changes to improve are welcome, even minimal.
There’s nothing more liberating for an anxious person than talking about what’s happening to him. Perhaps just by having a conversation about the problem, anxiety will decrease and decrease.
If he asks you to talk to you, don’t refuse; you can be the oasis you need in the middle of the desert.
You can also ask him, from time to time, if he wants to talk to strengthen the relationship between you. If you agree, excellent! And if you prefer to do it some other time, let me decide, keep in mind that active listening is very important in these cases.