We all know, or at least feel, that personality traits influence how we deal with obstacles, how we treat people, or how we celebrate the goals we have achieved, for example. However, what few people know is that personality is not a set of immutable or permanent traits that determine us. It is true that there is an important genetic burden on our personality, but that does not mean that we cannot shape it in various ways.
Each of the personality traits makes us different, unique and special, when these same characteristics prevent us from finding work, maintaining a relationship or making friends, can present a challenge: modify them to play in our favor.
- One of the best tools we can rely on to change our personality is self-knowledge.
- Aware of our limitations and our positive aspects will be easier to achieve good results in our personal and professional lives.
- In this way we will work more comprehensively on the skills in which we have the most difficulties and strengthen others that can be very beneficial.
I often meet people who comment on how difficult it is for them to talk to other people or claim their place in a job, for example, why?It happens to everyone at some point in life.
However, the turning point occurs when the phrase “people never change” appears. Yes and no. We all have innate natural tendencies in the way we handle things every day. A shy or outgoing child will likely become a shy or outgoing adult. We call it temperament.
However, the culture, experiences, and environment we live in will shape this temperament. This will be done by building and rebuilding what we call character. Temperament and character are our personality.
So the claim that people don’t change is partly correct. Touch the truth because we are all more comfortable in some circumstances and do not feel at home in others because of our personality. However, you can adjust the ability to optimally adapt to each of these situations while still being “yourself”. In other words, it is possible to adjust personality traits.
As? It’s not the same as everyone acquiring this “chameleon” skill, so for some people it’s easy to get into the news and enjoy them, while for others it can be a real odyssey. This is where the importance of self-knowledge lies, because it is a factor that will guide you to make the most of your skills without suffering too much from your limitations.
A simple exercise to achieve this self-know-how basically consists of answering the following questions: do you like this ?, is it right for you?So, if you like it and you do it right, no problem, the difficulty arises when you don’t like it or when it’s an obstacle, but it makes you feel good because you can miss the opportunity to talk about something that benefits you. .
On the other hand, there are activities or challenges that you like and that are easy or accessible, but that don’t work well when they become a habit, are usually referred to as ‘dependencies’ and can have a positive side when performed occasionally. However, when that addiction, for example, results in a relationship that we stick to when we are doing very poorly, we have a problem.
And we also have a starting point. Now, how do you approach the things that do good and move away from those that hurt?At this point, you need to identify why you find it difficult to address activities, people, and even objects that are beneficial. Lack of communication skills?Proud?, etc. , what prevents you from getting rid of the bad?Insecurity?
After taking a few steps towards a renewed and safer self,” based on self-knowledge and strengthening our self-esteem, we will be ready to conquer the world, we will be more aware of our good points, we will be more chameleon and therefore. harder to win.