Emotions considered negative generally follow certain behaviors or actions aimed at suppressing this emotional state, it is a strategy that people use a lot and that works very well in the short term, because it relieves us and frees us from the uncomfortable physiological symptoms of emotions.
The problem arises in the long term, when the solution is only a quick and palliative correction in the face of the immediate need to get rid of the problem, these behaviors are precisely responsible for the persistence of the problem over time and when we least expect it, the fragile barrier we raise collapses.
- Examples of such behavior can be a frenzy in the face of an anxiety attack.
- Desperately calling your partner when you have a jealousy attack to be sure where they are.
- Using drugs.
- Or betting large sums of money.
In psychology, do we usually explain to patients? And we make sure you fully understand this?That your behaviors, besides negative thoughts, are really responsible for the survival of the problem?Whether on the surface or inside? And until you stop him. , the emotional damage will barely integrate and pain or discomfort will be relieved.
In general, people reject this theory because it is very difficult for them to tolerate emotion, let it happen, to feel, the symptoms are sometimes so unpleasant that we do everything we can not to get sick, although we are aware that we are then we can find ourselves in an even more delicate situation.
For example, there are people who are very anxious in the face of a problematic situation because their interpretation is generally very exaggerated and perceived as terrible and unbearable, and therefore they dismiss everything in a mega-economic activity.
It is clear that this activity will not solve your problem, in reality this will eventually create a new problem if the person gets used to this dynamic.
That is, tolerating intense anxiety is more complicated than the alternative of finding a quick and ill-valued solution, in fact, the behavioral pattern of eating in the face of anxiety in these situations is so established that, before realizing it, the person is already going down. the fridge or closets looking for food.
Ideally, it would have been to have alternative behavior to deal with anxiety, such as deep breathing, analyzing the problem well, finding solutions and alternatives, thinking more rationally and carrying out the chosen solution, that is – to say how to manage our anxiety.
We’re all trying to hide our emotions at some point to suffer less, if only for momentary relief. Even if it doesn’t become a habit, it’s still very problematic. As we mentioned earlier, we often run into an even bigger problem: the psychological problem.
Some of the ways we try to hide our emotions may include
Food has great power over people for the pleasure it provides, in addition to killing hunger.
On the other hand, binge frenzy, especially with sugary and caloric foods, can lead us to believe that our anxiety has been reduced and even eliminated, so we can tend to moderate our emotional states with food, which can logically lead to a serious eating disorder.
Drugs, like food, also act in pleasure and reward centers, releasing dopamine into our brain and making us feel good for a short time.
Tobacco, hashish, alcohol and the rest of the drugs act as a very powerful emotional alternator. People with low frustration tolerance are more likely to have a substance abuse problem.
Like the previous ones, compulsive play acts as a reward, because even if we lose more money than we earn, the expectation of winning keeps us alert and motivated, distracts us from worries and momentarily invades us. So if we lose, the problem can be even more serious.
Very typical of depressive states. People, to stop suffering and get rid of stress, “stop living”, become inactive, stay at home, cancel their projects and, at worst, even have to leave work. This behavior also carries a secondary burden, borne by family and friends, such as increased care and care, leading to greater effort.
Having very aggressive behavior or being very submissive and giving yourself up to everything are two behaviors that you can have with others. To be aggressive we demand that others do what we want and, in the short term, we tend to achieve our goal; being passive, we get rid of the feeling of guilt we might have in defending our rights.
Sneaking your partner’s cell phone, making sure we turn off the gas a thousand times, or doing countless medical tests are behaviors that also free us from the anguish that something threatening can happen, even if they’re not very realistic.
There are other safety behaviors like carrying a bottle of water in case of a panic attack, having a pressure machine nearby, or giving lectures with a lucky charm.