“Is it necessary to break the chain that joins us in the past?And walk with determination?
(Giuseppe Mazzini)
- Who hasn’t already suffered from ending a relationship?How did you deal with that? Sometimes we do not act with maturity; collapse or try to blame the other person.
- There are many feelings that are at the forefront during a breakup.
Knowing the phases we go through after breaking a relationship can help us better manage that ending, it’s painful, but sooner or later it will be over, in the end time it heals everything!
That is the first step. The end is neither expected nor desired, so denial occurs. What harm is there if they lied to you, if they cheated on you or if your partner did the worst? Only good memories remain in your mind until you accept the separation.
People in this first step lie to themselves, they think it can be a bad time, a crisis that will sooner or later resolve, unfortunately they lie to each other.
The second phase after denial is anger, it happens when we are already aware of the rupture, there is no turning back, but be careful!Be careful not to try to avoid this step, as it is essential, anger is necessary for us to overcome the end of the relationship, without it it will be much harder to move forward.
Being angry is something that scares us and we try to avoid. But do you see the importance of this? Do not suppress anger, as it can damage your future relationships. Then let yourself feel and externalize your emotions!
When a person is on the brink of death, some negotiate with God to save his life or soul, in the case of romantic relationships, this negotiation is with the couple or with ourselves, but is it worth negotiating?
In romantic relations there are two successive phases, almost without a solution of continuity: one, which after discussions, is better reconciled immediately, because after all, the reunion cannot be delayed too much; and another where it is appropriate to use the first discussion as a pretext to end the relationship, since the end is inevitable?(Arthur Schnitzler)
What are we negotiating? Different possibilities of being able to maintain a relationship: open relationships, relationships at a distance, etc. That is, give options so that the relationship can continue. How many times can trading work? It will depend on each couple.
If the negotiation didn’t work, that’s where the lovers fall. You’re aware that no matter what you do, the relationship is over and there won’t be any going back. You understand a little late! After denial, anger and negotiation, now comes the hardest time and you find yourself plunged into depression.
It’s important that you trust the people you care about, they’ll help you overcome this suffering. Try to eat well and get enough rest; stay healthy even if you don’t want to. Give yourself a few days of mourning, crying and darkness. But that doesn’t extend much, get strength wherever you go and get up!
It is very important that you live until the end of each step after the end of the relationship, interrupting them would be crazy and the next time if you fall into one of them will be worse, just as the trading stage can or may not be beneficial, as agreed. If the negotiation goes well, but the relationship is not the same as before, we will do more damage.
Once every step is given, we can only accept the end!After the screams and pains, everything will be fine!You can meet your ex and you won’t feel bad. His world no longer revolves around him. The separation process is complete; you have matured and learned. The first breakup is always very difficult, but it will help you overcome the next ones more maturely.
Do you think there are others?Tell us about your experiences with your loves! Overcoming them and maturing will always make us much better people.