Friendship is perhaps the most perfect form of love. Unlike family relationships, friendship is a chosen and non-inherited bond. Unlike couple love, in friendship there are no commitments, no exclusive covenants.
In addition, any form of love requires friendship, but friendship does not require other forms of love to be involved.
- They say that everyone who has a friend has a treasure.
- And it is true.
- Good friends are a balm for life and an antidote to physical and emotional illness.
“Don’t walk in front of me, I can follow you
Don’t walk behind me, I may not be a guide.
Walk beside me and be my friend.
? Albert Camus?
However, not all of the people we live with are our friends, not everyone who claims to be our friends are, deep and sincere friendships are rare, and therefore we must learn to value them.
What’s a real friend like?
Not only does he show up when you need him or when you don’t have something better to do, he’s aware of what’s happening to you and doesn’t expect you to call him to be present, he wants to meet you and will be the first to arrive when he encounters a serious problem.
His concern for you is selfless, he simply loves you and wants you to be good. Do not die? If something bad happens to you, it doesn’t even have the emotional intensity of other types of relationships, but you’re still sure it’s there.
“Is a friend a person to think with aloud?Emerson?
Friendship presupposes mutual acceptance. A true friend doesn’t want to change you, criticize you or question your life. He knows he’s flawed, but he doesn’t mind pointing them out. And if he does, it is certainly with the intention of suffering less and not becoming someone else.
A true friend is open to understanding. If you talk about your problems, he will try to understand your position and will not point out your mistakes, so with this person you feel comfortable being yourself, showing you how you are.
A true friend knows he’s not your mother, your confessor, or your psychologist, so instead of reading a sermon, share difficult times with you spontaneously and easily.
If you know you’re in bad shape, it invites you to have an ice cream or stroll through the park, if you know an unpleasant situation has occurred, it will alleviate the drama and play with you to eliminate its gravity. knows he’s suffering, he’ll be by his side in a serene, non-invasive way.
If one thing distinguishes true friendship is the ability to listen, it goes far beyond silence while the other speaks. Real listening is respectful and warm.
Knowing how to listen is not to interfere with what the other says, if it is not necessary, it is to accept what the other expresses, without gestures or attitudes of disapproval, to listen is to accompany someone in silence, while the person shapes their ideas and feelings through of words.
Great friends do not pretend what they think of you or how they feel about you, the charm of friendship lies precisely in the fact that the people involved have full confidence in each other, there is no place for false courtesy, nor for hypocrisy, among true friends.