How many times have I cried in secret without knowing that life was doing me a favor, without understanding that it was not the end of the world, but the beginning of something better, because to exist is to start over and over again, to close a window to open a door, wipe away the tears of someone who never deserved them.
Albert Einstein used to say that if there was one thing he was grateful for, it was for all those people who had said “no” throughout his life. Each of the frustrations suffered by those who refused to help him in time allowed him to find that motivation to learn how to do things on his own. To be stronger.
- No one knows how much I cried.
- Or everything those tears taught me.
- Today I am the result of each of these silent cries that I push.
- And not for weakness.
- But for tiredness of being strong.
There are times when we can’t take it anymore, the emotional stress that causes so many disappointments, failures and everyone who is not on the road forces us to stop, that’s when homelessness and a clear sense that we have lost control. of our own lives.
Judith Orloff, psychiatrist and author of the book “Emotional Freedom, How to Stop Falling victim to negative emotions,” says the first step in ensuring inner balance is to cry. After the tears comes the tranquility, then the clarity. think about it.
It is very likely that if you could now travel to your own past, you would feel compassion for yourself when you cried for reasons that were probably never worth it, all those tears shed by those who never deserved their affection or for every moment of anguish Because a project or dream that never paid off are now permanent memories. Broken but at the same time useful dreams, enrolled in these fleeting clouds of our own life cycles.
Now, it’s worth noting that no one comes into this manufacturing world. Tears are like passing rituals that we must try by force to continue to grow, to know “who is and who is not”, to test ourselves and measure our own strengths.
In psychology, it is often referred to as “unnecessary suffering. “It is an eye-catching term and, believe it or not, more appears than you think, it refers to those moments when the more conscious we are of our own pain, the more we perpetuate it.
Examples of this may be these timely romantic relationships, where instead of ending the expectation of the impossible and freeing himself from pain, the person sinks further into his quicksand; on the other hand, useful suffering has an end and allows us to release wool to clean and learn; the useless will never yield to grief, change, inner growth.
You’ve most likely heard this expression many times that “only those who have suffered can understand what real life is. “It must be said that this is not entirely true. Happiness also teaches, it also offers us adequate resources. Adversity is that crossroads on the path that most of us will one day have to cross.
Have I also cried for onions that weren’t worth it, for dreams that blew the wind, and for sweet desires that had turned sour?
When we go through it, when we feel pain in one of its forms, we will no longer be the same, so it is necessary to provide useful suffering, which we talked about earlier, which allows us to learn to be more skillful strategists, better with resilient minds and people able to see new opportunities. Because even if life has given us a “no” turn, sometimes it’s just a “wait a little longer. “
Judith Orloff, in the book quoted at the beginning of the article “Emotional freedom, how to stop being a victim of negative emotions”, teaches us that to see opportunities in times of darkness, it is necessary to generate adequate inner peace.
In the end, it is in these moments of personal difficulty that we discover the strengths that we have internally and everything we are able to do, because even if they do not believe us, we are like oak, which blows the most wind. , the bigger it grows.