Unfortunately, toxic people are a common phenomenon in the society in which we live, an absolutely useless evil, but which has settled very strongly among us.
Because there are toxic people anywhere it is very difficult not to identify with them or prevent them from entering our circles, so it is important to be attentive and know how to identify them.
- “You have to look for friends like good books.
- Happiness is not that there are many.
- Nor very curious; but few.
- Good and well-known.
- ? – German Matthew-.
Identifying toxic people isn’t always easy. However, there are ways that generally do not fail, as they have learned to hide in the crowd, we must find techniques to keep them away from us and our environment.
The variety of toxic people we can find in the world today is huge, so we can’t identify everyone in the same way if we use external techniques, however, there are internal techniques that can be most useful.
As external techniques we can define the ones we use to observe the usual behaviors inherent in toxic people, however, the viruses they create evolve and discover new ways to continue harming others to build their trust, because they have little self-confidence and need the pain of others to assert themselves.
However, internal techniques are very reliable because their use reflects what these toxic people make us feel. You must not seek a solution in others, but in yourself.
To use internal techniques, you need to have a very high level of safety in yourself, otherwise you can confuse feelings and reactions. If you are a happy and realized person, you will have no problem identifying toxic people, because you will quickly realize, deep down in your being, that something is wrong with the person who is trying to hurt you in a hidden way.
How toxic people affect you
Identifying toxic people by the way they affect you with their attitude and action is relatively simple, as long as you have a balanced psyche and a happy and full existence, remember that in the face of the slightest suspicion that someone is not behaving properly, you must put all your senses on alert. Don’t forget to study this person either. Still, it will affect you, your feelings, your reactions, and your attitudes toward this being.
If you feel that what a person is doing is affecting you intimately, even if it is very subtle and almost imperceptible, it begins to suspect, because perhaps this friend or this known assumption is not so clean and fair. who wants to make himself known.
When you feel like you’re losing your mental, emotional, and emotional balance, study in depth your own being what’s wrong and where these effects that threaten your stability come from.
Chances are, if you’re perfectly honest with yourself and look deep into your heart, you’ll find that the negative effects on your life come from the same point of origin, a toxic person who may be well protected under the appearance of someone nice, kind or accommodating or maybe not. You’ll find out for yourself.
However, it is important that as soon as you notice that something is shaking in you, make sure to cut any type of relationship that, when rooted, ends up turning the problem into a great snowball that is impossible to stop. bring all your work and balance and destroy what you have built for yourself and yours, with effort, care and affection.
“Unhappiness tests friends and discovers enemies. -Frigia speck-
If, all of a sudden, even if you’re at peace with yourself, you start to feel remorse, a very deep sense of guilt, a kind of contempt for the people who once loved you, a slight depressive effect, or a disproportionate responsibility toward people who didn’t like you, it’s probably the effect of a toxic person manipulating you.
The feelings that toxic people provoke in others are negative and linked to decreased self-esteem and exercise of control and manipulation of the other, it all depends on whether the other person is influenced by them or not, if it gives them credibility. .
These feelings and emotional states are easily identifiable by those who are confident in themselves, have their feelings at peace, and speak frankly with their hearts and emotions.
So if you’re not yet honest with yourself, try to start this dialogue with your heart and get to know yourself, you’ll see how much easier it will be to be happy, identify toxic people, and surround yourself only with those who really love you.