Dealing with toxic people is a situation we will have to go through at some point in our lives.
You can find narcissists, liars, compulsive, manipulative, to name a few.
- The problem with toxic people is that even if you want to avoid them.
- They always find a way into your life.
- Your actions are born from the need to belong to a group and you can be the one.
Fortunately, there are alternatives that smart people use to prevent toxic people from becoming installed in their lives once they have been identified.
“The more people I know, but I love my dog. “Synope Diogenes
In this article we will look at a number of tips for treating toxic people. Enjoy! Smart people:
What toxic people are looking for the most is attention, they want someone to see them and make them feel important, at any cost they will try to make every event or situation focused on them.
When you realize that one of these people has fulfilled your wish, ignore it and ignore it. If the toxic person has mastered a conversation, change the subject and give others a chance to talk.
The most common thing is for this person to try to draw the conversation to where they feel safe, you can avoid it by explaining that the topic is over and that you are now on another topic.
In a matter of minutes, the toxic person will walk away. Over time, you’ll walk away completely when you notice you’re not getting the attention you’re looking for.
What can hurt the person who can’t keep a secret!Toxic people don’t have trouble spreading their word, and they criticize and speak poorly behind your back.
Sometimes it’s hard to identify these people because they tend to seem trustworthy and kind, but there are signs that will help:
The best antidote for gossip lovers is not to tell them anything, just live your life without inviting them. If you have joined your social circle, keep your distance.
“How do you want someone else to keep your secret if you didn’t know how to keep it yourself?-Francois de la Rochefoucauld-
Smart people know it’s important to have a strong support network in life. When you have this, you don’t even have to worry about toxic people. You’ll only have people who will support you when you need them.
Smart people know that true friends are more valuable than anything material.
Smart people know that manipulators can ruin a life; people who manipulate hurt to achieve their goals.
To avoid manipulators, you must first learn to identify them, you will know that they are manipulative because all your feelings become negative.
It’s the people who make you wonder if you’re doing things right with a feeling that hurts.
Toxic people tend to lie compulsively to others and themselves, they have to convince themselves that they are telling the truth to feel better, unfortunately for them lies are always exposed.
Smart people don’t get mad at lies, or argue, they just let the truth fall on its own weight.
This tends to happen sooner or later, because maintaining a false story is difficult and contradictions will come soon.
Toxic people are experts in defending anything; If something doesn’t go the way you want, get ready for an argument and a drama that will last for hours.
They like everyone to know their problems, they like to be the center of attention and not to miss the opportunity.
If you find yourser in this situation, act rationally, try to talk calmly with the toxic person. If you can’t, finish the discussion by explaining that you won’t be able to find a solution and ask them to look for it later.
If the problem is unresolved or the person does not want to solve it, simply say that it is no longer their business.
Ignoring toxic people is a real art
It will take you some time to understand that you don’t need these people in your life. Once you do, you’ll be freer.