Is there anyone around you you who you have difficulty communicating with?Your conversations are trivial, but when it comes to talking about something really personal, is that person incapable of speaking?You can share many things, but when it comes to talking about Your emotions, does it close?If all this happens to someone you know, it’s very likely that we’re talking about an emotionally distant person. Read on and we’ll tell you what you can do to improve this situation.
This type of person, characterized by a certain distance from others, may seem cold and indifferent to the problems of others, these people often impose barriers to prevent the other from approaching, despite the attempts that can be made. difficulties in creating and maintaining in spaces of emotional intimacy with others, some may be too critical, tend to isolate themselves, and even show some lack of empathy and compassion.
- It should be clear that an emotionally distant person is not necessarily introverted.
- Introverted people need more time to show their true attributes and who they really are.
- But in no way imposes an emotional distance.
Some of the reasons why these people have come to develop this type of personality are related to their primary bonds: parents, siblings and those who cared for us in the first days of life. have failed, the girl will have deep wounds, so when she is frustrated and abandoned she needs to close so that she is no longer hurt, so as adults, we meet these people who cannot talk about how they feel.
Other possible reasons are related to more current factors, such as stress, mistrust and doubt. While disarmament of these ideas or structures takes a long time, the approach will be productive at some point.
First we have to evaluate the situation to know what we are facing, we need to know which areas are most difficult to access and which are not, if you find a place where the person feels comfortable and can share a little more. , it may be important to start with this place.
Also, you can take the time to talk about something that’s happening to you, simply and without forcing you to talk about it, make it clear that you want to know what’s going on, but you don’t want to push it. Try to put your emotions aside, don’t take over the situation, it’s important that the person doesn’t feel this as a requirement, but as a space in which they won’t be judged or evaluated.
Accept your limits. Accept that you may have to make many attempts to open it, and it may offer you very little; However, although it may seem like a small step forward, the emotionally distant person has worked hard to get there, so you also have to accept the possibility that it may never open, and you may get tired of trying. It is important to pay attention to what works and what does not, what supports openness and what makes the person close.
Do you think it’s possible to make some kind of approach?
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