They say that we are our worst judges and executioners and that we treat others better than ourselves, tend to demand much from us, do not forgive our failures, and have a hard time saying good things to us.
So we have to learn to love each other, to respect each other and to accept ourselves, just as we do with the other people who live around us, starting with ourselves it will be easier to extend this to others.
- Some people may say that they demand a lot from themselves because they need limits.
- Goals.
- And demands to succeed.
- Well.
- What’s the matter.
- We’re still playing facial.
- What we’re doing wrong or what we could do better.
- We could start by not being so strict and allow ourselves to make mistakes from time to time (which.
- By the way.
- Will serve as a learning curve).
We have proven to be strong, determined and courageous people; everyone is a superhero or a wonderful woman. Meanwhile, we hide that we are afraid, that we doubt, that we are not happy.
All this mask or screen does not help us, on the contrary, because when the time comes to be alone, we become the most unjust and harsh people on the planet, we do not allow ourselves to make mistakes.
Tell me, do I love myself?it’s not synonymous with narcissism, but acceptance and love as I am, and while it seems to be the hardest thing in the world, it shouldn’t be, so here are some tips that can help:
1. Suppose you are wrong: no one is perfect and no one is born knowing. Like others, he also makes mistakes because he is a human being. Put your mistakes in perspective, don’t make a storm out of the water, put things in perspective.
If there’s anything about your attitude or the way you don’t like it, pay more attention next time, analyze the situation, and find out how you’re going to solve it. What if the same mistake happened to a friend or family member?Convince yourself that the world will not stop spinning and that it will not be the apocalypse because you made a mistake, or rather because you admitted your mistake.
2. No you ignore the pain: much less the sadness, the fear, the suffering, the despair, the depression?I mean, everything that’s bad. Wanting to hide in front of others can be helpful to you from time to time, but there comes a time when you have to deal with your feelings and emotions.
Are you able to stand a friend who feels bad or has a bad day on his partner’s side, but who can’t say?I’m sad today, aren’t I? Am I depressed? Because we want to get away from this feeling, hide it and not fix it, it just makes things worse.
3. Treat yourself in the same way you would treat someone you love: imagine you are in the kitchen with your young child who wants to help you set the table, he has a drink, drops it and breaks it. He? You may be fine, but the little one can also cut himself and start crying; it seems that it was not intentional, that it is a mistake that can happen to anyone, etc.
So what would you think if, instead of your son, it was you who broke the glass into a thousand pieces?Surely your first reaction would be to think that you’re useless, that you can’t do anything right.
Compare the two situations and imagine how your child would feel if you said the same thing you would say to yourself and how you would feel if you were more sympathetic to the child.
4. Having a bad day does not mean that bad luck has come to stay: we can all go through moments that we want to forget, that make us sick, in which we seem to walk with a black cloud in our heads that only wets us.
But in addition to bad or adverse things, we have the opportunity to emerge victorious and win the negative, unfortunate or whatever we want to call it. There will always be good things to highlight, even in the worst moments. Take a minute, every day to think about what to be grateful about, you’ll notice there’s a lot of good things!
Don’t be your greatest enemy. Become your own ally and partner.