We often come across phrases and texts that motivate us to increase our self-confidence, but I’ve rarely seen this instead of focusing on what we have to do, telling us how.
Theory is very important, but practice is much more, it is normal to understand the roots of problems, find an answer to why we are not sure, or understand what we have to do, however, they rarely give us the tools and practical exercises that really work.
- In my opinion.
- There is little talk of practice because each person is a world.
- What works for one does not work for another.
- I can teach a technique that worked for one person.
- But for others it will not make any difference.
We are unique, each brings with them experiences and beliefs that, although very similar, are totally personal.
Work on your self-esteem to strengthen it. Are most insecurities related to low self-esteem, exaggerated fear of not doing it right, not being accepted, being ridiculous, etc. ?
Many, instead of opening their eyes and recognizing that their self-esteem is not good, create a mask, make mistakes creating false self-esteem.
We have read countless tips to boost self-esteem Do you have to love yourself, do you have to be flexible with yourself, show your strengths, value yourself more, think positively about yourself, etc. ?
This is all perfect, but a lot of people wonder: I know I should value myself more, the problem is that I don’t really think it has any value, so what do I do?How do I value it?
To change our personal opinion of ourselves it is not enough to repeat positive phrases, can you repeat yourself daily?I’m beautiful, well done, are you okay? Probably with these kinds of phrases, you increase your motivation and positivity a little, but it will be somewhat fleeting, a few minutes.
If we really want to make a change, we must also change the way we think.
If you are an insecure person, probably if you write your virtues and defects on a piece of paper, the balance will tilt to the side of the defects, there is the problem, we are what we think of ourselves.
If you think you have no value, your confidence won’t increase. To increase confidence, we need to look at ourselves from a different, much more positive, loving and realistic perspective.
How do I value myself when I really think I have little value?If you don’t value you enough, it’s going to be hard to increase your safety.
Every human being shines on something. Some discover it quickly and continue to improve it and show it to the world, but others don’t detect it and continue to compare themselves to others who are supposed to do things better than they do.
A footballer has millions of followers. They admire him because he shines playing football, but if this sportsman hadn’t improved his virtue of playing well and followed a career in something that wasn’t his forte, he wouldn’t have explored his virtue and probably wouldn’t appreciate it that much.
If he can’t find his strength or can’t see himself with positive eyes, he’ll stagnate. Unsafe people tend to be very perfectionist and themselves.
What for one is a defect, for another is a virtue, it all depends on the perspective you want to give to things, I suggest you exercise to change your vision of a defect that you think you have.
Let’s take the example of a shy person who thinks shyness is a flaw and that no one of his trust will want to strike up a relationship with them. I’ve met someone close to me in this situation.
She said that she would never find a boyfriend because confident people attracted her and she would never look at her because she was not sure, what she did was lock herself up completely because she thought it was impossible, one day she decided to try to meet people who attracted her, although she thought it would not be reciprocal.
She met someone who made her change the perspective of things, what she considered a flaw, the other person felt it as a virtue, I told her that I had seen something special in shy people, did you know that most unsafe people have great sensitivity?, a huge inner world and tend to take care of the person they have as a couple?
Everything has its good and bad side, absolutely everything, so that you can redefine what you see as a defect, become virtue, looking at it from a positive point of view, if you can focus on the good and exploit it, yourself – Confidence will increase.
Photo courtesy of Alba Soler and Andrés Nieto Porras