Feeling stagnant is a very unpleasant feeling, for a reason we do not know, there are situations in which we are unable to combat the stagnation that limits us so much.
Let’s say we’re at a crossroads and we have three paths ahead of us, although we have more than one option and we know, more or less, what our favorite is, we stand still, days, weeks, months and even years pass.
- Is this something a lot of people.
- Not saying everything.
- Have ever felt in their lives?Some even more than once.
This feeling usually arises when we have no goals or goals, the days are all the same and this can make us feel a lot of anguish, we get stuck and stay in the same place because we don’t know how to get out of this situation.
Psychologist Judith Camargo, in her article Carl Rogers, theoretical and practical reflections, collects some testimony from her patients who feel stagnant. One of them, Jorge, said this: “Before, I was sure [?] Today, I only move my body mechanically. Has my world become the size of my environment?.
Another patient who didn’t want to reveal his name said, “I gave everything to my husband, including his children. I didn’t mean to, but I agreed. And now I’m lonely, my life doesn’t make sense, I’m old, my chances are over ??
It seems that everyone was swimming in a pool full of mud in which, as much as they think about different options, they do not see a way out, that’s what happens when we feel stuck.
We cannot see further, it is as if we have lost all hope, sometimes it has to do with certain beliefs that we carry in tow or with certain fears that prevent us from taking the first step.
When work does not satisfy us and we do not do what we want (travel, learn a language, move, be independent), our fears and insecurities can lead us to assume that “that is what we have”. However, the boredom and tiredness of the days that pass, without being able to enjoy it as we please, can make us pay a high price.
Do we think we’re stuck and we’ve been like this for a long time?It is important to seek professional help, however, there are ways to deal with this situation when presented at specific times.
“When inspiration doesn’t come to me, I go halfway to find it” – Sigmund Freud-
There is a visualization exercise that some professionals apply in their consultations and that is essential to combat stagnation, this allows us to be aware of the direction we want to take, identifying the steps that we must take. The way to do this exercise is as follows. .
Let’s start by relaxing. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. After that, you have to imagine yourself in front of a door you’re going to open. Behind her, will we meet ours? Me-futur and we have to set his age. Maybe 60, 70 or 90 years. It’ll be different for each person.
If we see each other at 70 years old and right now we are 25, we will start making a journey for all ages that we have passed, first we will meet at 30 and continue every ten years until 70.
In each of these phases of our lives, we will ask ourselves: what do we do, where do we live?What are we working with?We will also determine if we have a partner, what our friendships are and what the relationship with our family is like. The exercise will eventually visualize how we embraced our?I?70 years.
This exercise is unprecedented, but it gives us an idea of what we want to do, for example, whether we are traveling in different places or working in a company in an area where we are not trained, that will allow us to make decisions now.
You may enroll in training courses related to what we would like to spend or save for our next trip.
Despite everything we can do to combat stagnation, the important thing is to act, we cannot stay in the mind, in a sea of doubts without walking along the coast, we have to start taking steps, preferably small, to get closer to everyone . our goals.
Stagnation often leads us to postpone courses, studies and even makes us miss valuable opportunities, but all of that can change. Dealing with fears and starting to change small things with the help of a professional will allow us to feel that we have advanced and that we have left this handicap field in which we immerse ourselves.