A few days ago the psychologist and writer Bernabé Tierno died, at the age of 75, batting bone cancer, with pulmonary metastases, with the same courage and wisdom that he transmitted in his works.
Bernabé Tierno has published more than sixty books and has given several lectures and lectures. For everything that has transmitted to me professionally and personally, today I am writing this article, in homage to one of the most prestigious psychologists in Spain.
- I’ll talk about the book “Karate Mental”.
- Which was one of his works that influenced me the most.
- When I read it.
- I was surprised to discover that all human beings have the ability to control their minds.
- To control their reactions and emotions.
- Do we think we are at the mercy of the outside world: the couple.
- The companions.
- The family.
- The boss?Actually.
- It’s because we believe it.
In this book, Barnabas teaches us the power of emotional intelligence and how words can change any problematic situation.
He was inspired by Eastern wisdom and philosophy, to show that with caution and patience many more victories are achieved than with strength and viscerality. Love and positivism are the engine of these victories.
It is scientifically proven that a negative word or bad news can cause as much harm as physical aggression; while positive and encouraging words can act like a balm.
The problem is that in our society we are surrounded by toxic people, stress and pain, caused, most of the time, by ourselves. That’s why it’s very important to become a “mental karateka. “
Being a mental karateka means learning to be like a rock, realizing that the key to mental tranquility is in us. Of course, we cannot control the thoughts and behavior of others, but we can control ourselves.
A toxic person is childish, immature, and projects his troubles and sorrows onto others. Bernabé teaches us an antidote to treat these types of people: show them that they have no power over us and that they will not control our feelings or our lives.
If, for example, my colleague challenges me every day and I am angry, sad or nervous about his behavior towards me, I strengthen the way he acts. Toxic and bitter people need our consent to reach us.
? Does its brilliance bother those who live in the dark?
Barnabas emphasizes emotional management as a key to personal growth, with peace, calm and peace we have achieved almost everything, with stress and impulsivity we are unable to achieve our goals, to have good relations with others and we lose our mental health. We ended up sabotaging ourselves.
Therefore, it is very important to learn to be emotionally intelligent, violence does nothing and ends up causing more problems, replaces violence with empathy, understanding and tenderness, with practice nothing can bother you.
The concept we have to take into account is “I win you win”. It’s not about competing in imaginary contests or winning anyone. Accept the other as a person who has his own beliefs and beliefs.
If we are emotionally safe people, we know when the other is right, we accept that we also make mistakes, and that is not a problem, we learn from mistakes and treat every problem calmly and calmly, with this behavior we will gain more love, empathy and understanding of those around us.
Accordance? Nothing like that. A good mental karateka knows what he wants, is firm in his decisions and convictions and knows how to put themselves in the place of the other Practice the law on the contrary ,, that is, in the face of anger and anger, reacts in a calm, polite and firm way. Our inner peace is so important that we cannot be contaminated by someone else’s behavior.
If you want to be a good mental karateka and not be influenced by other people’s attempts at intimidation and puerility, I recommend reading this book and practicing the ideas it conveys, maybe these teachings will change your life, as mine once changed.
Rest in peace, professor.