Where to keep the desire to keep trying, what to do with the love that remains to be given?How do we deal with the end of a relationship, that ending we didn’t want, but that came unannounced?
Ending a relationship is not pleasant, especially if we have not made that decision, memories, envy and sadness begin to appear, and with them, questions like the above.
- Inadvertently.
- You can immerse yourself in a spiral of abandonment and restlessness.
- Something like a state of stillness.
- Where nothing represents everything you want to do.
An ending symbolizes a loss, a duel, an ending, perhaps unexpected or at least unwanted, that leaves us unsafe and alone in the face of a future that we consider uncertain at that time.
Separations are very complicated for the person who has not made this decision, but are not impossible to overcome.
Beliefs that you will never be happy and that no one else will appear in your life are very common in such situations, but they are only doubts and insecurities, the result of disappointment and suffering experienced, are also part of the process you must go through to heal.
Well, what to do when the end point of a relationship appears?The best option, although it seems a little contradictory, is to do nothing, that is, let the process follow its natural course.
It is normal to need to stop, to take the time to think and, therefore, it is better to do it calmly and alone, only in this way do we encourage proper introspection, a sincere and sometimes painful look inside.
Once connected to ourselves, the next step will be to open ourselves to the emotions we feel, whether it’s anger, sadness, hatred or whatever.
The important thing is to listen to them, little by little, to free them, to answer our questions and, at the same time, to face fears.
It’s not something that happens in one, two or three days, or the first week, it’s a slow process that requires awareness and preparation and will vary by person.
What to do with everything that has been lived with the other person?We mustn’t do anything.
Separation is part of the path we have to take, but memories belong to us, they are experiences that cannot be lost, because they are part of who we are now.
They may cause pain at first, because we think it would be endless, but they are there and, over time, we will give them space and place them in the place they deserve, a box that, once opened, generates emotion, but manageable and healthy.
It is true that sometimes we insist on speeding up the process and want immediate responses, however, instead of moving forward, we end up going backwards. We must allow time for emotions to transform.
Therefore, if we let everything run its course, it can be solved little by little, as long as the relationship has not been too toxic, when you agree you can see that not everything was so wonderful and that, really, leave this relationship. it was the best thing that could have happened.
Stopping to dedicate our time to someone who doesn’t love us or prefers not to share their time with us gives us the opportunity to be alone to get to know each other, take care of us and, perhaps, find someone else who wants our company.
When the storm passes and emotions subside, we learn to listen to ourselves and allow ourselves time and space. We realize that this is not the end, but the beginning of a new stage.
Healing the pain of a separation depends on each person. There is no fixed time for this; the more you try not to think, not remember, do a thousand things so as not to be alone, or to suppress tears, the longer this process is delayed.
Let us not forget that the pain of loss and loneliness are fundamental to closing and healing wounds, regaining strength and rebuilding.
“It’s painful to say goodbye to someone you don’t want to let go, but it’s more painful to ask them to stay when they want to leave.
The time we spend controlling our emotions allows us to overcome them, however, if the state of apathy and sadness continues over time, it is recommended to consult a specialist.