We tend to reinforce fear by blaming our inhibition, isolation or phobias, but we actually feed on fear unconsciously, so today we will help you deconstruct every scene of fear that goes through your head.
The scary scenes in your mind are nothing but fantasies that only fuel that fear. You may have had a traumatic experience and are now living in fear that it will happen again. Let’s take an example.
- Imagine that he stole you and threatened an armed robber.
- Has had a very strong impact on you and.
- Therefore.
- Every time you go to the street where it all happened.
- You think it will happen again.
- This is because of the scary scenes that are etched in your mind revives that moment.
- Making you believe that it will happen again.
- Sometimes.
- Can you imagine even another scenario.
- Other actors in this scene?Fantasies.
- Dreaming.
- Further stoke your fear.
We cite an example of a past situation, a lived experience, however, what happens when that experience has not been lived, but fear is there ?, this happens more often than we think, and the result is that we limit ourselves and end up not doing what we really want.
For example, you intend to start your own business, but in the scary scenes that go through your head, you see a scenario of failure or even public humiliation, chances are it will happen to you if you stay in your comfort zone. there is no real reason for this fear, you do not act or calm down.
Therefore, we will offer you an exercise so that from today these scary scenes no longer block what you want to do, live or want to live, for this it is essential to take pencil and paper and try to answer the following questions:
Remember that fear in your mind and think about the worst situation you could experience, is failure the limit that limits you so much that you don’t take any chances?If we take the example at the beginning of the text, where fear is the result of a bad experience, what would be the worst thing that could happen to you ?, the same one that you have already overcome?
If it’s the fear of failure, look for the source, perhaps the lack of training. If so, start studying! If you don’t have the financial resources, use the Internet, as there are many free courses that will help you acquire knowledge at no cost.
What if my fear really comes from a bad experience, for example, an aggression to which I was subjected?In this case, you can sign up for a self-defense course to feel safer and deal with that fear. This way, you’ll know that even if they try to steal it again, you can defend yourself. As you can see, there are alternatives to overcome most of our fears.
To deconstruct the scary scenes in your mind it is very important that you do an objective analysis of your fear, if fear is that of failure, think about the chances of that happening, if you can count on people from your environment who can guide you, or if you have a plan B to solve the situation, the chances of everything going wrong are greatly reduced.
Similarly, if you’ve been robbed, what’s the likelihood of this happening again?Until then, this had never happened; Why would the odds increase now?Your perception is affected by this experience, but it can transform it.
This question is very important, so you have to ask yourself if the fear you feel compensates you in any way, remember that fear is extremely useful for our survival, if we are in danger, fear can help us get out of this situation. However, remember the fear that affects you, do you think it helps?Let’s look at some situations where fear only harms:
Once you’ve answered all of the above questions, evaluate the pros and cons. Let’s say you want to write a book. However, it is unable to start working, the fear of failure, the humiliation and not delivering something good is blocking you, so the years pass and different scenes of fear appear in your mind, let’s see what happens.
If we compare the two tables, we will notice something very curious: the pros table invites action. However, the disadvantage table refers to a number of circumstances that, in fact, paralyze us, and make us predict a future that has not even happened. What’s better?
If it is not yet obvious, we have to stick to the pros table, which has twice as many points as the time trial table, therefore it has much more value and importance, for us it is much more worth doing what we want. we stopped putting off something that would do us good.
Throughout your life, several scary scenes have certainly passed through your mind. In addition, some of them were likely to collapse at the moment of truth. Talking in public isn’t as scary as you imagined in scenes in your mind, and it happens with so many other goals, circumstances or even situations, deconstructs these scenes step by step and consciously will make you realize that there are no limits, in fact you limit yourself and block yourself, creating scenes that are just your imagination.