I still don’t see why humans tend to build catastrophic and negative ideas about others and themselves, rather than opting for more positive thoughts. Today we will talk about how to eradicate negative thoughts.
It is contradictory that instead of supporting our most precious side, that formed by our positive characteristics, our strengths and our attributes of value, let us find the flank of our weaknesses, devaluations or characteristics that we do not have. At a time when we are attacked by a series of self-deciphering feelings and feelings.
- Then I will think of this and explain a technique to do the opposite.
- As a possible strategy to eradicate negative thoughts.
Some of the behaviors that develop around these sensations, which cognitive psychologists call “cognitive distortions,” relate to each other despite their subtle differences; however, the important thing in all of this is the degree of negativity and devaluation that prevails in cognitions. emotions and actions.
Many of these ideas surprise and proliferate like germs that invade our minds and end up creating within it.
In short, there are many beliefs that promote a strong self-disregard and that lead us to see in others and in ourselves opaque and unhappy aspects.
The point is that this catastrophic cognitive fauna does not get anchored in thought, but advances quickly and inexorably towards action, with the emotions that flow from it, and from there a beautiful and pitiful prophecy is built and fulfilled.
These negative ruminators are suspicious and, in some cases, become paranoid, because it is not possible to spend their lives thinking about what others think of you or imagining that the world is against you.
They are great allies of the “but” language formula that apply to most of their verbalizations in various ways: “but”, a pity what?Or. . . All these interjections that override the statements they make. A real trap.
The? But? It is a turning point that breaks a sentence when it is positive. Let’s look at examples 😕 He’s a very good person and he usually does things right, but?When he gets angry, is it terrible? We had a lot of fun over the weekend, don’t we talk at any point, but is it doubtful and a little rude?
The? But? It interferes with the positive aspects generated from the beginning.
In general, negative and catastrophic people rarely have a positive discourse in which they appreciate others or themselves; even when they do, they end up derailing and invalidating with that “but” that introduces a degrading description, replacing the first sentence of value.
It is important to note, even if we have already said it, that the “but” can also address yourself. For example: “Was it really good to do my homework fast, but I always do it at the last minute?Yes? I’m very studious, too bad I can’t speak fluently.
Break this systematization of the use of? But? It is quite difficult, because it always spins the wheel on the negative side, it is an inertial machine that causes everything to repeat and perpetuate the negative point of view, so it is difficult to reduce the negativity mechanism from a turn to 180 degrees or change from negative to positive, but this is not impossible.
One of the most effective results is to follow step by step and use the “but” technique. It consists of not avoiding the torrent of negative thoughts, quite the opposite: you have to let them sink, let them go and say them. And, once expressed, is he used to direct the discourse toward the positive.
As a mechanism, this technique is consistently similar to systematized, but makes the negative positive, the following examples help to understand the strategy:
But is it reverse or positive to learn from a situation. It’s kind of like asking yourself the following: “what does this idea tell me”; ?What learning message does this situation send me?”What does this situation tell me?”
This simple technique initiates a kind of negotiation between personal devaluation and self-esteem. Given the difficulty of immediately disabling disqualifying automation, this is an intermediate step to realize that not everything is a disaster and that there is no entirely negative situation; it’s just a disqualifying personal perception.
Now, reader, finish this article for three, but positive and start practicing!