There are times in life when we feel that a relationship is over prematurely, something inside you screams that there was still a lot to live and maybe your ex thinks and feels the same way, but you don’t know how to take a step back and fix it. In fact, dealing with these situations is never easy.
Other times, you realize that this person no longer loves you and no longer wants to be with you, but you still love him and you know that you have enough strength and will to rekindle that fire (or at least try). Every love story has its ups and downs. We don’t always like our partner with the same intensity, but that doesn’t mean there’s not enough ash to try to stoke the fire.
“There is always madness in love. But is there still a reason for madness?-Friedrich Nietzsche?
These situations can be very confusing, there are many mixed feelings, there is interest in continuing, but also fear of rejection, there is a belief that you want to repeat this story, but also doubts if this is really not easy to know or predict what your ex-partner thinks or feels, so what to do?Here are some suggestions.
This is one of the most common mistakes and one of the least effective strategies for recovering the former partner. You think if you tell him how much you’re missing, and without him, it’s worthless, you’ll click?in your heart and you’ll decide to come back? In fact, the opposite may happen.
In this way, you will lose the respect of your ex-partner, who will appreciate someone who cannot stand alone?How do you feel love for someone who clearly doesn’t love himself?It’s like you’re looking for a job, and his only argument is that he needs it.
With this kind of attitude, you can make the other person feel overwhelmed. Your ex-pair may begin to feel guilty or even under pressure. If he feels compassion, he can come back to you because of you, but at the same time, you’ll have lost him forever.
If you ended the relationship it was because things weren’t going well, but when there’s love, after separation, it’s normal to want to come back, rather than a sensible decision, it’s an almost instinctive impulse. get carried away by anxiety and give time.
Time will allow you and your ex-pair to understand what life is like without each other. The evidence is that they are surprised, especially at first. It’s normal to be missed, but that’s not a good enough reason to chase that person who’s gone either. As the days go by, you’ll find that you can deal with the situation more calmly.
If that doesn’t happen, if instead of calming down you’re becoming more desperate, it’s time to rething the situation, is it really love that brings you together to your ex-partner or is it a strong addiction?The impossibility of living without him or her is a sign that more than a great love is at stake.
Take some time for yourself. Remember everything you like to do without being accompanied. Recover old friendships, develop new skills and enjoy your celibacy. Introduce something new into your life, such as a hobby, habit, or something that has nothing to do with your recent past.
If this seems impossible, it could be a call for attention. Does that mean you’ll probably see your ex-mate as a cane?He doesn’t want to let go. You may not have to go back to him, but admit that you’re indebted to yourself, in those cases it’s common for the other to be an instrument for hiding unresolved conflicts that have nothing to do with him.
Stay away and think calmly about why you ended the relationship. Most of the time, the reasons that are not said directly are the ones that really matter. Examine your mistakes and the other person’s mistakes. At first you’ll feel confused, but with a little effort everything will clear up.
When you feel strong and think you can live without your ex-pair, now is the right time to start a dialogue, if it’s your choice, it sounds contradictory, but it’s healthier. Approach and honestly assess whether there are signs of that person’s interest in you; if so, it may be time to rekindle that relationship.