“The lie has wings and flies, and the truth continues to crawl, so when we realize the mistake, is it too late?
(Miguel de Cervantes)
- It is often difficult to differentiate a bag from a famous brand from an imitation.
- They have the same shape.
- The same color.
- The same seams.
- The same measurements and even the label is the same as that of the original brand.
- But there are small details that are revealed over time.
When exposed to the sun or wet, the imitation bag collapses: internal divisions undo and cause discomfort; even the strap we use to carry it on the shoulder is not as comfortable as it used to be.
And what can we do? We’re sorry to throw it away, but we can’t use it at any major event.
The same goes for relationships with false friends
At first, fake friends seem perfect, but little by little, without understanding why, they begin to cause more problems and inconveniences than you would expect from someone with whom we share interesting conversations, seem to change over time.
Discussions and disagreements begin with trivial things. Your behavior is strange, but you don’t want to ‘open your eyes’. Nobody likes losing their friends.
Here are some tips for identifying “fake friends. “
Keep your eyes open. They are very subtle and pleasant and we believe that there is no need to worry, however, before the situation becomes unbearable, as with the fake bag that eventually collapses, solves this situation, step aside and remove it from your contact list.
Your friend seems happy to talk to you, but he always talks about other people’s evil, he never has anything good to say, he always distills his poison.
Interestingly, this same person praises him in front of him, but criticizes him when he is not present.
He doesn’t talk about various topics, but he talks a lot about other people’s lives, it’s impossible to have a conversation that doesn’t lead you to analyze other people’s lives in relation to yours.
He’s not honest with his feelings and he’s confusing and exhausting
He tells you to be happy and positive, but he doesn’t do it himself, he doesn’t want to show his weaknesses and gives the impression that he doesn’t need his friendship.
He makes nasty comments like, “Was mine better?”His maturity level is 100 and he says his is 0. He says he just wants to help you, but he doesn’t do anything.
It gives exaggerated importance to social relations, always wants to help, but when it does it gets bored, it doesn’t know how to say no and when the matter is serious it seems to doubt.
He’s always by your side in difficulties, he tells you that you have many virtues, that you appreciate it very much, but you just need to improve and things change. ?Does it always end badly?; you don’t seem to like to see him happy.
He has no sense of humor, especially with you. If you’re commenting on something funny or that made you laugh, he’ll probably tell you he didn’t have fun.
He asks for his other friends, his family, always with the intention of judging them, insists and wants to know all the details that do not concern him.
Repeat the same story over and over again, as if you didn’t remember who told it.
Among many people, he even says, “It’s a very sensitive subject, don’t tell anyone. “That’s not the way to do it. Otherwise, there is no need to request secrecy.
He doesn’t agree to talk about politics or religion. You already have the sentences ready and you finish any discussion.
He’s a very nasty person, he complains and he’s not affectionate. It’s very hard to say you love yourself and give yourself a hug.
He says he’s very strong, he’s lived a lot in life and disqualifies his worries.
However, you’ve already reached a point where you can no longer stand it and think you need to improve this relationship, but you feel guilty about talking about this problem with others.
You don’t know anything. He’s already said bad things about you to his friends and acquaintances as low as possible.
Even if it hurts a little, don’t worry, don’t waste time with people like that, maybe it’s time to find new friends.