Does social competence influence how we feel? Answer: How did you feel when you were able to communicate effectively with someone else or when you handled an argument so that the relationship wouldn’t deteriorate, and now, what emotions came up when all this went wrong?
In fact, this ability to establish and maintain good relationships with others influences our emotional state and well-being. What’s the bright side of that? It’s not a rigid thing, but it can be improved. Read on to learn more about communicating smarter with others.
“The most important ingredient in the formula of success is how to get along with people. -Theodore Roosevelt-
In our day to day we communicate with other people constantly, whether it is asking for a coffee, talking to a colleague about a joint work project or telling our partner how much we love him, social interaction situations are numerous and very varied in our daily life. On the other hand, its level of success will depend on our level of intelligence or cunning in the development of our social skills.
Thus, we will make the difference between obtaining and maintaining satisfactory or unsatisfactory relationships, family and friendships, but not only that, having good social competence will allow us to interact effectively with different professionals and work more coordinatedly with our peers. In addition, we can better resolve conflicts or speak in public in a pleasant and relaxed way.
“Friendship can only be made through the development of mutual respect and in a spirit of sincerity. -Dalai Lama-
We will also help our children develop in a healthier way, ultimately we will achieve comprehensive development on a personal level Why?Because proper social competence will mean greater emotional well-being and better psychological adaptation; as well as greater professional competence and better social support networks.
Communication skills and your level of development are what largely determine our social competence, a key concept in this sense will be self-affirmation, it is a form of communication in which the person is able to express his thoughts and opinions. , but taking into account those of others, in contexts that may not be more favourable to them, that is, it is a communication ingredient that, well managed, respects both the user and the others.
It is the balance between aggressive communication (with which we would only try to protect our rights) and passive communication (in which we would only try to protect the rights of others). An essential part of this is to assume the possibility, both on our part, as well as that of others, of saying “no?”before a request.
In addition, it is very important to practice different social skills. These are the different behaviors that allow us to respond effectively to interactions with others. To do this, it is essential to listen and listen to what the other person is telling us, without assuming that their actions are for reasons that we think are most likely.
In this sense, it will also be necessary to express what we feel and think. Like us, our interlocutors are not soothsayers, so explaining our position will facilitate the relationship. Being able to start, hold and end conversations when needed is one of the foundations of our social competence.
“When people talk, listen carefully. Most people never listen. Upon entering Hemingway,
Being able to communicate effectively is the ultimate goal when we are prepared to improve our social skills, in addition, to achieve this goal, we must also be trained in other areas that will help our relationships with others to be of quality and satisfactory.
An example of this is prosocial behavior and willingness to cooperate, that is, being able to do things for others even if they don’t ask us to, that doesn’t mean that we stop worrying about the problems that concern us. and that we are doing it radically, but that we are finding a balance between the two interests, so that at the end of the day, everyone is satisfied.
On the other hand, it is important to be able to prevent and solve problems. Effectively identifying, anticipating and resolving conflicts will help us find the solution that best satisfies all parties in the most peaceful and just way possible. Work all these skills and improve your social skills!
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