How do you make a relationship last?Of those who celebrate the anniversary of paper, cotton, wood, tin, glass, porcelain, silver, gold, diamond, glitter?(And I didn’t even know there were so many weddings!)
We know it’s not easy. In fact, it’s pretty hard!Today, social media deceives hopeful hearts into making fairy tales. Beautiful images and sensitive thoughts copied and shared between people?Mature and beautiful? They don’t show real people hiding behind their computer screens. smartphones.
- There is a real world that happens outside of screens and keyboards.
- A world that we ignore in the idealized search for perfect happiness that we know does not exist.
- So we are bitter about the disappointment of broken relationships.
- Wounds.
- Families separated by the illusion that what spoils everything is marriage.
With a little sadness I found in a recent survey that the average duration of marriages in Brazil is 17 years, is a good average, but I went to the consultation in the hope of finding a high rate of people celebrating their wedding anniversary in silver and gold. But they exist!
I’m a fictional character the other day I was remembering a movie you might know, “Separated by Marriage,” where a romantic relationship was struck by routine. I also remembered a film I love so much,’ The Story of Us Two’, where the 15 years of marriage reveal the natural wear and tear of relationships and how much the person we are inside changes, perhaps even affecting our conception of love and the other, but what I like about this second film is that it portrays that true feeling that brings two people in spite of everything , and that can be recovered because it has its roots in the things we don’t know along the way.
I’m not trying to recommend movies (lies, I am, and I can leave a relationship here in the end, hehehe), but these are so related to marriage and representation so much that marriage is, yes, gentlemen, a very complicated thing. , which I ended up remembering when you think about how, after all, people manage to have a long and seemingly happy relationship.
I think a lot about the manoeuvres necessary for a lasting (and happy) relationship, because today two people I love very much celebrate their porcelain wedding. Twenty years, TWENTY YEARS!Who knows what it is?I wanted to think of something good about it, but you can only think of me and I wanted to talk to you for a while.
I have had the privilege of living with them during the routine, several times. I saw, it’s not just flowers. I saw, there are many loves. It is beautiful to look at, pleasant to feel, it makes me envious (white, black, it doesn’t matter, envy is envy) and I wanted such a relationship for myself! In the many conversations that I have had with the protagonist of this relationship, I emphasize that the most beautiful thing that exists between the two of them is friendship, complicity, respect and affection.
He buys fruit every week, rinses it and puts it in the fridge to make it easier for the family to work and make sure she eats, she doesn’t always eat (unless it’s bananas, hehehe). waste and touches the sink, grumpy and complaining as he prepares juice for breakfast before he misses the fruit. She listens to these complaints, embraces you affectionately and says, “Thank you, my love, I don’t know what I would do without you. “You may doubt it, feeling like a joke, but smile secretly when answering:?Yes, I know, there’s no trouble? He knows how to break down barriers.
She loves candy she buys on the way home from work, and he gives her that candy every time she comes back, to the point that she almost now hates candy (I hope he knows), but he likes the gesture of affection. and the fact that he stops there just because he was thinking about it (twenty years later). She knows she’s going to be fat if she eats, so sometimes the candy she passes on to her, but the gesture?He gets tattooed on his chest. Affection.
I saw them argue. I saw her be the pepper of the relationship with her calm and serene way of speaking and giving lectures. I’ve never heard such a low argument in my life. I almost ask, can you speak louder, please, next door, you don’t hear anything I RESPECT him. He knows how to tame this lioness, she knows how to tame this lion.
Together, they faced the death of their loved ones, illnesses, problems that were not theirs, they went through all these difficulties together and I know they were neither light nor easy to take, because of the calls she had not made to her parents to call for Sunday lunch, she called there and pointed out that someone had to keep this bond strong and alive. For every weakness she encountered in an extreme situation, he took the initiative so that she would not feel alone. Complicity.
I saw a hand on my ass and a kiss on my tongue with dizzy mouth and dished hair, I saw a hug in the middle of the mall and I saw a (elegant) argument in the same place, I saw you go straight, I’ll go left to buy Christmas presents before the shops close and I saw the pizza come home to make everyone happy. FRIENDLY RELATIONSHIP, Twenty years?
He once told me that we have to complement each other, that it is normal for one to be organized while the other is a total area, that one is too romantic to counteract the practicality of the other, that one likes to travel while the other wants One pushes the other to do the right thing, but that would not happen in itself if there was no association to administer.
How do you make a relationship last?Of those who celebrate the anniversary of paper, cotton, wood, tin, glass, porcelain, silver, gold, diamond, glitter?
This is not ignoring that the two have a life before the relationship, an individuality that must be preserved and now a union that must be cultivated and divided. It’s not ignoring that there’s a family before his family, the in-laws. now, the brothers-in-law, the nephews and that all this comes in the package, yes gentlemen, but it does not overlap with the family that was born from this union, it is not because we do not know differences, nor to express the Need to change, but why not, if there is a real will to follow the same path.
Have I seen little gestures, and fat too? And it’s been twenty years between pain, flowers, thorns?And loves, twenty years?
So I was here thinking? We greatly idealize happiness. One day my father told me that love changes over time and that it strengthens, and if you want to know, the wind keeps blowing, we sin by ignoring that this house we build will withstand all storms, simply because one day we hit our nails pretty hard. Can’t you be carefree? There is a need to strengthen structures on a daily basis. With the juice of ripe fruit, with repeated sweets, with silent arguments, kissing the tongue and hand on the ass?Even after 20 years.
There’s a beautiful routine in marriage, you know? Some facilities we didn’t find there. The affinity of tastes, the recognition of the expression of the face, the position of the toothbrush, the respect for the manias that each one has. Memories of your child‘s first fever, his visits to the pediatrician, this walk or this trip, this economic difficulty overcome, this look of complicity that only two people who respect and live together for a long time recognize. Are those details? The details, knowledge and constant concern not to leave the relationship intact and expose it to the test of time.
? I need data. Tell me you want from yourself Write with your eyes on us. I don’t know what to say
So I tell you the look I have (since I haven’t done it yet, hahaha)
We love a friend. He builds love, every day, in a work that only ends in death. You want to give up, and maybe there are days when you regret being married, because there is no way to run anywhere else, you have to face it. both places love differences and find a way out together.
We keep love. And I don’t just mean the things that need to be done to nurture the love of others, it’s fostering self-love and not projecting on each other, it’s about preserving, respecting, maintaining the differences between the two. and not allow them to grow enough to suppress the decision to stay together.
We maintain friendship, respect, affection and complicity above all, so loving becomes an almost imperceptible consequence. Love happens in union with all the other things you need to stay there and always be a bond.
How do I see them both?
The caption in your picture today said:
“Then you decide to accept the invitation to a ‘meeting’? And you come before a wonderful energy, a lot of love?Love that overflows, that spreads, that multiplies, that teaches you to love more, that makes you marry the same person every day. I love you! The chronological account says it’s been 20 years of marriage, but I doubt it.
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Fortunately, I didn’t go to read until I wrote all this, because it totally influenced the thousands of words I want to say here?
Now, I repeat: how can we make a relationship last, of those who celebrate the anniversary of paper, cotton, wood, tin, glass, porcelain, silver, gold, diamond, glitter?
Love to overflow, learn to love more and more, want to marry that same person, every day, right?
ALL THE HAPPINESS OF THE WORLD FOR YOU! Not at all, let’s share!
And I’m going to write something much more beautiful for the anniversary of the money?And even more beautiful in gold. God gives me health and strength to write about diamond marriage as well.