How do I know someone?The emptiness. Someone’s personality and values are aspects that we discover little by little and day by day.
Surely we would like to have a type of QR code reader capable of deciphering whether this new colleague will be an ally or a rival, as well as knowing if these children who are friends of our children will have a good influence on them or not. It would be fascinating to know, in turn, whether that person we had a first date with deserves our time and expectations.
- In any case.
- There is one thing undeniable: we are forced to take a leap of faith: to trust others and to get involved in this interesting process.
- Which is to find someone.
- Such an art.
- Complex and full of uncertainties.
- Is not without some beauty and some emotion.
- So it is always worth dedicating it to him.
However, there are models that can guide us towards a better understanding of human behavior and character, there are factors that psychology has studied, especially the field of personality, which can be very useful in these cases, let’s see below
“People will do anything, even absurd, to avoid confronting their own soul. No one lights up imagining figures of light, but making darkness conscious. “Carl Jung-
It has certainly been a long time since Carl Jung wrote his Psychological Types in 1921, however, much of this legacy that has left us remains useful, especially the theory that each person is among a point of introversion and extraversion.
This is perhaps the easiest aspect to identify in someone, only through openness, the way of informing or acting, you can guess if the person in question is more reserved or if, on the contrary, it is overflowing with the gift of relationship and outpouring, characteristic of extroverted people.
However, to understand how to know a person and better decipher their personality, there are many other factors that can be paid attention to, let’s look at some of them below:
Dan McAdams is a professor and director of northwestern University’s Department of Psychology, is known for his interesting personality studies, and especially for his theory of the three levels of knowledge, his contribution allows us to understand what someone looks like through a number of aspects or phases.
Wake Forest University conducted a 2010 study led by Dr. Dustin Whood, in which researchers tried to identify what could help us understand whether someone is trustworthy or not.
Interestingly, researchers have identified a very important factor. To know a person, or even identify narcissistic traits or antisocial behaviors, it is sufficient to look at how he treats others and, above all, how he perceives them.
According to this research, people who value others positively, who always see the good in the people around them, or even more so who do not mock, criticize or denigrate those they do not know, have a healthier personality.
On the other hand, anyone who tags, despises or comments on something ironic and negative about others demonstrates a darker and less reliable personality.
To conclude, as we see, to meet a person and have an idea of whether we can trust them or not, we need time. A conversation is not enough; It is not enough to know how he will treat us, whether kind, funny or intelligent, his way of behaving and above all his way of treating others can be decisive factors.