The loss of the maternal figure is always a complex situation, as adults it is a difficult and very difficult time to overcome, but it is worse when we are young, we may not be able to fully understand what happened, so the experience Grief becomes more difficult. This situation can be much more difficult for orphans due to gender-based violence.
In these cases, it was not only his mother who died, but his father was responsible for this fact, the reality is that gender-based violence leaves multiple victims at the same time, what can we do to help the children of women killed by their partners??
- “Tears are not for the people we lose.
- They’re for us.
- So that we can remember.
- Celebrate.
- Miss and feel human.
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Orphans of gender-based violence face double pain: that caused by their mother’s death and that caused by the loss of their father, who often commits suicide, flees or is arrested. This complicated situation can lead to a duel that becomes pathological.
The development of healthy or pathological bereavement in children will depend on many factors, including their age and cognitive and emotional development, as well as the information that was transmitted to them about the event and the person who informed them of the child’s death. The mother will also influence her presence or not at the time of the murder and the emotional relationship they had with her parents.
After what happened, orphans for gender-based violence face a disconcerting and insecure world, which they must adapt to without the attachment figures that ensured their safety and depended on, so it is normal for them to feel insecure or by large amounts of emotions such as anger, sadness and anxiety.
“If we eliminate the duel too much, it can double. Molière?
In this way arises the fear of being alone and unprotected, in addition to being abandoned, so it is customary to demand an extra dose of care and care of their new caregivers, feeling very dependent on them. Behaviors that correspond to younger children. it can even happen.
Denial of reality is also very common among orphans due to gender violence, as well as the inability to express the emotions felt as a result of the event, on the other hand, obsessive ideas about what could have happened, isolation behaviors and denial. when establishing new relationships, and even psychosomatic physical illnesses.
In such a complicated situation, it is normal for orphans of gender-based violence to need outside help to prepare properly, so it is essential that the child understands, accepts and reintegrations what happened. It will be essential for the child to express what he or she feels.
“No one told me the pain sounded scary, CS Lewis?
For this reason, it is essential to work to adapt the child to his new family and family environment, one in which his mother no longer exists, in this way we will help you take another key step: build new healthy relationships. we will advance in the regulation of the sadness for the loss and the memory of your mother.
Finally, it is important to work so that the child normalizes the emotions that seem to be associated with his mother, in this way we will help you legitimize your anger and confusion so that you can channel them properly.
Given the complexity of the situation, it is advisable to go to a specialist psychologist, in this way we will provide orphans by gender-based violence with the best possible help.
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