Reading emotions in someone else’s eyes is something that anyone can do, after all, the gaze is the part of the human body that communicates, transmits and connects most intensely. Understanding all these nonverbal signs inscribed in people The eyes will allow us to instill, for example, the lie, sincerity or magic of attraction.
Bécquer has already said that whoever can speak with his eyes can even kiss with his eyes, the magnetism of these fascinating organs is so great that sometimes we are not entirely aware of all the secrets they hide, so one thing communication experts know well. It is that, although many of our behaviors, actions and words can be filtered through social conditions and our will, the gaze expresses a type of language that we cannot always control.
“The eyes are the point where the soul and body are mixed. -Friedrich Hebbel-
If we are attracted to someone, our student develops, and this also happens when we are surprised. In addition, our gaze looks at a point when we try to remember something or decreases when we are suspended in a state of introspection. There are so many subtle nuances that characterize the behavior of our eyes that it is always interesting to know more about it in this way, we can go further in the minds of others or read their emotions effectively.
Let’s think about it for a moment. If there is one thing we spend much of our time on is communicating with others, we do it (almost) always face to face, seeking the eye contact of others, however, we pay more attention to the oral message, words and quality of dialogue.
It is also worth mentioning that in recent years, with the advent of new technologies and instant messaging systems, the communication style has changed, we no longer need to be with someone in front of us to say something to that person. even convey our joy, love or anger in emoticons. All this is neither good nor bad. It’s just different and, above all, faster.
However, with this we lose the power to read the emotions of others with our eyes. We deprive ourselves of this pleasure, of this mystery which is to reveal, from small gestures, the magical nuances of the quality or complexity of our relationships. Now let’s see how to do this reading, this analysis.
When we talk about the tongue of the eyes, we are not just talking about the eyeball and pupil, the great expressive power of our gaze is built mainly on an extremely complex network of nerves and muscles involved in the movement of the eyebrows. in the blink of an eye, in the movement of the siens, etc.
All of this may seem contradictory, but you should know that this act, flashing more intensely than usual, is a mechanism that moves the brain when one feels more nervous than normal, therefore, if we want to read other people’s emotions. through our eyes, it’s important to focus on the context or conversation we have at that time.
Our pupils expand when we see something stimulating or when we are in an unlit environment, if we are attracted to something or someone, the student fills up like a full moon, immense and illuminated by this emotion, by this power of attraction. , when we are offended or see something that makes us angry or upset, the student contracts.
Reading the emotions of the people we care about is something that everyone would like to be able to control, however sometimes you don’t need to be an expert in nonverbal language to understand the harmony that we can establish at all times with a friend. with the person we are attracted to, or even a family member.
A curious fact about this topic explained to us by the experts is that when two people “connect”, a visual sync is also established, that is, that visual gestures are imitated and the same microexpressions begin to appear.
Everyone has been through this at some point in their life, maybe when we talk to a child or a very insecure person, instead of maintaining direct eye contact, do the eyes look side by side, in the corners where they don’t meet our faces?in those spaces where they find us on our side, where they avoid shyness?
However, it is important to note that the lying personality also has elusive eyes, it is not as obvious as when it comes to a shy profile or social anxiety, so we must focus our greatest attention when we read the emotions and intentions of others. .
Those who use deception usually don’t hold their eyes for long. Sooner or later the person looks away. On the right, if you need to remember something, and on the left, you should use creativity.
In conclusion, as we have been able to deduce, the eyes convey an important and extremely wide variety of social and emotional information that is sometimes slipping away from us and which are not always easy to interpret.