The sky, with its interesting changes, is like the sea that reflects the living conditions. Or, at least, it’s like the canvas where we can find phenomena painted, in parallel, similar or comparable to the situations we’re going through. The sky with its clouds and the sea with its waves are like our daily life, full of difficulties. There are moments, even days and periods of bad weather. The climate depends on where we live, just as our environment influences our daily lives. There may be sunny days, but there are always gray clouds and stormy periods. However, there are always opportunities behind difficulties.
On a rainy day, a day when the sky fills with gray clouds can be really beautiful when you go out to enjoy the cold, or when you’re under a roof that protects you, and you can get lost in the tales of a Book in your hands?because sometimes the stories of others calm the difficulties of our stories, the written words speak to us and we also tell them, we say through a silent dialogue in which we are totally free, because there is no character who judges listens to us or gives us advice, except those really necessary.
- You probably remember a day when you thought.
- “Would it be nice if I could stay in bed today?”If I couldn’t even get up.
- And it is curious.
- Because what we never think is that to have a green sign there has to be a red one.
- And besides.
- Not only must it exist.
- We have to stop it a few times.
- It may seem paradoxical.
- But it is often our small misfortunes.
- Our difficulties.
- That make us appreciate our great fortunes.
In a red light, as on a cold and tempestuous day, there are opportunities behind the difficulties, we can see the beauty that hides. It’s time to close your eyes and breathe, to listen to the stories of others waiting for the rain to pass before us, in that sense, if you’re not going to give us back the time we spent waiting, why not look for a way?to enjoy it, or even enjoy it?
Something similar happens with emotions, which we consider negative and undesirable, we are talking about sadness, anger and fear, envy, hatred, revulsion and resentment. These emotions that no one wants for you, not even for the people you love, here, yet it is another of our great contradictions. They are emotions that we do not want but that we often feed them ourselves, guaranteeing their survival or making them protagonists.
Why do we do this if we think these gray clouds are unwanted?We often do this because they feed “secondary profits. ” We find that when we are sad, we get more attention from someone, or when we are angry, the people around us pay much more attention to how they treat us. Let’s see: attention, care, preference, who wouldn’t these privileges appeal to?
What child has never claimed to be sick so he doesn’t go to school at least once in his life?Well, which one of us has ever faked an emotion to win any of these secondary earnings mentioned?We can’t always do it consciously and premeditatedly, but we certainly have done it on purpose at least once. The point is, unlike when we try to escape a boring school morning pretending to be sick, emotions tend to come true when we fake them.
Be born and stay! In many cases, the emotion continues after the original claim disappears, but is no longer claimed. In addition, one can continue to fake an emotion that was once real in the face of difficulties. Imagine a grandmother who was widowed and whose relatives began paying special attention to her, in an effort to ease the pain of loss. Our dear grandmother may think that if she does not show sadness, others will stop giving her the care and attention they do so much. In that sense, isn’t it weird that you start faking an emotion to some extent, perpetuating the situation?It can happen without our conscience. Therefore, we ourselves create the difficulty, because we hardly simulate an emotion without falling into their nets.
In this sense, a healthy exercise of introspection can check if we are in a dynamic similar to that initiated by our dear grandmother, this does not mean that we should always move away from the negative feelings we feel, but behind the difficulties, We can always learn something about ourselves, because often the real reason for being sad is different from the one we thought at first , it will not be a problem to admit the real reasons, we will not be weaker in accepting them.
This is the true adaptive value of negative emotions. That’s the true beauty of difficulties. It’s about information and energy. Every emotion has these two elements, for example, anger warns us that someone can deceive us and the energy it generates allows us to act when we think it is necessary to intervene.
In case we consider it necessary – and emotional maturity is important here – we will have to find the information behind emotions and also a way to dissipate the energy they generate. Use difficulties to improve our own lives.