As I reflected on the differences, I realized that it can be easy to respect them when they are far away. When you meet someone different on the street, at work, at university, anyway, in a place where you don’t have to be very intimate, where people don’t show up at all and there are no imperfections at all, compliance can be simple.
It seems easy to respect those far away. We tend to sympathize, care and want to help those who are suffering in the world, we respect the difference of ourselves, we have no prejudices, we admire people with disabilities, we pretend to want the good of all, but we do not understand who is at our side, who lives with us, who has given us life, who has breastfed us, who has paid us and still pays the expenses , who’s really with us when we’re not well.
- It is very easy to respect differences when they do not reach us.
- When they are far away.
- In society.
- At school.
- At work.
- But to respect the difference of those who live under one roof.
- Which we see when we get up.
- At lunch.
- At the end of the day.
- We sleep in the same bed.
- In the same house.
- Then we are bothered by the difference.
- However small.
It alters the difference when the person shows imperfection, does not do everything in our own way, thinks differently and this thought clashes with ours, it is difficult to understand, we take it as something personal, we think that the person acts differently than we would like with the intention of joining us, when in reality the person acts as he thinks he has to act , which suits you.
In this lack of understanding of the other, of the different, we hurt and hurt those around us. We put expectations on people and get frustrated when they don’t act our way, we don’t understand each other’s way of loving, we don’t stop to think that the other person can have the same feeling and disappointment, because he feels as misunderstood and uninfided as I’d like to be, because everyone has their own way of showing and feeling love and we’re too selfish to worry about , let’s not look at what we’re interested in.
Because of this intolerance, we are disappointed after a period of marriage, there are many separations/divorces, betrayals, or people live under the same roof, but have no privacy, no speech, no touching. , live like strangers, however, when they met and started a relationship, this person was wonderful, made them happy, excited, it was hard to believe that someone had known the same amazing, yet, over time, the charm disappeared, because the person began to show his flaws, and gradually came the retraction, lost interest and love cooled down , or finished, so as not to be able to handle the differences.
What I once loved and caught the eye began to provoke contempt, rebellion, because it ceased to be attractive, becoming uncomfortable, and that’s right: when you’re in love you don’t care about differences, in fact, they attract us, impress us, but when passion ends, they become failures, which seem huge, impossible to understand and tolerate.
Well, romantic passion always happens, but we can fall in love with life every day and decide to understand and accept the distinctions of our neighbor, accept ourselves as flawed human beings and thus consider these characteristics as part of the people we live with. , we do not expect perfection, which we will never find in a human being.
Recognizing differences as a natural thing for the human being, we become lighter, happier, love more, because we care about others and their way of perceiving the love shown, which helps to make them happy, better and kinder. expectations in people, we don’t expect what they can’t give us, but we feel good about ourselves doing our part and we no longer charge ourselves, because we accept our limits. be grateful to be who we are, the people next to us, and everything we have.