Just as it is not possible to commit a perfect crime, it is also not possible to lie without our unconscious reporting it. Lies require a dose of concentration that exceeds our possibilities; we can control what we say, but not the reactions that occur in our body when we lie, so lie detectors work. There are signs that a person lies, or at least hides some of the truth. Take note so you can spot a lie.
When a person lies, he takes a longer-than-normal break between words, speaks slower, as if he is calculating what he is saying, precisely because his message is not spontaneous, even if it is a simple question, can you answer it?with a simple question?Yes?or “no”, answer with another question or phrases that include the words with which the question was asked.
- For example.
- If someone asks the question “Did you break the vase in the room?”.
- It will bend: “Who.
- Me?”Or “what vase are you talking about?” The function of the question is to save time.
- While inventing an answer.
In other cases, the liar responds by repeating the question phrase in the answer: “No, I didn’t break the vase in the room, guess what?” This mechanism seeks to give the truth to the answer.
Lies are an extra tension for those who use them, tension that will be reflected in body language. The one who lies is the most inexpressive with his eyes and hands, keeps them rigid, precisely because he uses all his self-control skills not to denounce himself.
Although many insist that evasive looks are a sign of lies, it is actually quite the opposite, the person who lies keeps the most fixed look than usual in the other person, because it is another way of controlling the situation. Keep an eye out for warning signs and be able to correct yourself, so an extremely fixed look often indicates that you are a liar.
When a person is sincere, it is normal to cooperate and give detailed explanations of everything that is asked of him, on the other hand, the mind that assumes any question as an attack, will be irritated and answered succinctly.
The book “The Language of Seduction,” written by Phillippe Turchet, explains how lying generates very precise physical reactions. This was concluded after several experimental studies.
A very telling sign of your lie is that the person who does it feels a slight itching in the corner of the lips and at the tip of the nose. There is an imaginary triangle surrounding this area of the face (mouth and nose); If your interlocutor brings your hands closer to this area, you’re sure to be lying, especially if your fingers go to the corners: this gesture is foolproof.
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