Overcoming the difficult times I experienced gave me lessons in life and maturity, these were times when I closed my wounds, moments of slow healing that inoculated me with high doses of self-esteem, a few drops of prudence, a lot of wisdom and exercise. After all, few moments require both us and those where there are only two options: get stuck or move on.
William Shakespeare said in his book “The Storm” whatever happens, even on the most stormy day, hours and time pass. While this is true and there is some logic in this reasoning, there is one aspect we cannot overlook: the form and attitude we face on this stormy day will determine how we are. We’ll try later.
‘There are no trees that the wind has not eded. – Hindu proverb
So, if a person obsessively clings to this traumatic event, disappointment, loss or frustration, the days will pass one after the other like the resin that envelops an insect, we will become a breath of sadness and despair wrapped in amber, however, if we assume these difficult times as times of healing, as precious moments with which we acquire a new strength , encouraging acceptance and at the same time generating new attitudes, time will always be in our favor.
It is worth saying, however, that this perspective is not easy. Hardly anyone is prepared for such an attack. No one has taught us how or how we should deal with these events that fate sometimes strategically puts in our way, no one explained how to overcome difficult times.
Most people like easy things. We always choose the shortest route between two points, we do not tolerate uncertainty, we prefer free time to moments of concern and we also like things to go as planned in our schedules.
Taking this perspective is not at all negative, it is not because it is exactly what our brain seeks: avoid risks, save energy and survive in this perfect space called comfort zone, in which everything is under control, but as we already know, difficult times usually happen when you least expect it and take any form. Sometimes it is an economic crisis, sometimes a definitive separation, a loss, a mistake and even a moment of existential crisis.
In themselves, these difficult times almost always contain the same dimensions: loss of control over our reality, feeling of vulnerability, crisis of values, helplessness and fear, are common roots that together manage to dissolve ours here and now, to erase who we are. we are and transform into a doodle of disconnected lines.
An interesting strategy that proposes a field of psychology is to transform these difficult moments into a moment of personal reflection, we must be able to create a new story that speaks of healing, reflection, change and new perspectives. This intermediate chapter of self-contact, will give way to a new chapter, more rewarding, satisfying and truthful.
If you’ve never heard of narrative therapy, now is the time to get to know it, we come up with a kind of therapeutic strategy in which the patient gradually becomes a specialist in his own life, this happens thinking and rearranging his thoughts, telling his story, understanding why what happened and giving him the opportunity to create alternative stories that will help him get out of the current problem.
“There are only two days in the year when nothing can be done. One is called yesterday and the other Tomorrow. Therefore, today is the ideal day to love, grow, do and above all live. -Dalai Lama-
This type of therapy allows the person to feel protagonist of his own story, in addition, it helps him to understand that difficult times are vital chapters that offer opportunities for growth, are moments of healing, in which we become heroes, authors and creators. auspicious chapters.
Next, we’ll see what dimensions narrative therapy defines
Overcoming difficult times requires more than ever that we are protagonists of our own stories, are times when we lose control, in which we become secondary characters, take control and see these times as chapters in which we can heal, acquire new learnings and reflect.
Let’s think about the story today that we want to live tomorrow?