Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where you felt struck by seemingly innocent attitudes?Or do you think a loved one uses this attitude to get what he wants?That’s what we’re going to talk about in this article.
Passive-aggressive behavior can take many forms, although they are all verbal or negative behaviors. This usually happens when we are angry, sad or disappointed by someone, but we cannot or do not want to show our true feelings. It’s a form of psychology, violence that causes great suffering and emotional harm to the people we love.
- Passive-aggressive aggression occurs when certain negative behaviors persist in any type of relationship.
- Attitudes that can occur include:.
? Lack of communication when it is clear that there is a problem situation that needs to be discussed.
? Avoid or ignore the person you can’t talk to calmly
? Avoid problems, problems, and situations that need to be discussed or resolved.
? Prioritize the smallest problems and leave the most important ones for later.
? Obstruct or sabotage events or processes that generate changes in your favor.
? Avoid situations where you may lose or find someone you can compete with.
? Be ambiguous and unclear in conversations with others
? Maintain an attitude of bad mood, silence or resentment with the intention of attracting attention and generating sympathy.
? Afraid of having close relationships.
? Create excuses or reasons not to do things without taking responsibility.
? Victimization and inability to identify your share of responsibility for problems.
Depending on the person and situation, some or all of these features may appear.
Passive-aggressive attitude is a defense mechanism with which it seeks emotional protection, it is an automatic attitude resulting from past negative experiences, which have caused harm to being deeper than those who express them, the basis of this attitude are fears, grudges, disappointments, insecurities and low self-esteem.
If you are a passive-aggressive person and want to change, you must start by understanding its causes, when you do it will be easier to control the attitude, but if you fall into it you must take responsibility for your actions and reactions. You should also avoid feeling attacked by your problems; on the other hand, maintain an objective view of the situation.
If you are a passive-aggressive person, try to understand the reasons for this attitude and explain to the other person how it affects you, you should be prepared to receive an aggression, but without being blamed. Instead, try to be honest about your share of responsibility in the situation and, if you continue, set clear limits.