We are our worst enemies and our mirror screams repeatedly, we behave like tyrants in front of our image and what this reflects in our internal dialogue is truly frightening.
“I’m not as happy as I am” “I have a body I don’t like” “I don’t look good” “I hate my teeth, my breasts, my hips. “I’m skin and bones, I have no shape. “” I’m very overweight. “Since my pregnancy, I haven’t regained my form. ” I never approach others for fear of being rejected. “afraid of being judged. ” Are all my friends dating, except me?
- If every time we look in the mirror we refuse because of the fat of our muscles.
- The lack of chest or burritos.
- The folds of our back or the wrinkles of our face.
- We create an internal space dedicated to punishment and humiliation instead.
- Of love and security.
We can’t even imagine what we’ve lost by not seeing ourselves beyond the mirror, we have no idea how we compromise our well-being every time we run away from observing, exploring and recognizing ourselves in our perfect silhouette and imperfections.
It all started on a day when photographer Victoria Caroline was hired by a woman to participate in a photo shoot dressed in subtle and sensual lingerie, with the intention of surprising her husband.
Everything went according to the script, the woman was delighted, funny, spicy, sexy and very confident, in fact the photographer was very satisfied with the result and ended the session quite cheerfully.
However, once the session was over, the woman, who was wearing a size 46, looked into the photographer’s eyes and said, “I want you to use Photoshop to remove my red spots, grease, stretch marks, wrinkles and all that meat it is. where shouldn’t I be. ?
Victoria did her job, retouched the photos and printed a beautiful album that her client really liked, but over time something happened that touched the artist and that’s why she decided to share this story on Facebook: her client’s husband sent her the following email.
“When my wife gave me the album and I opened it, my heart broke. It is possible to perceive that photographs are a beautiful work and the work of a very talented photographer, but?They’re not my wife’s. “
You’ve made each of your faults disappear, and while I’m sure that’s exactly what she asked you to do, erasing them has also disappeared the marks that testify to our common life.
When the stretch marks were erased, he took the test of our children’s lives, suppressing their wrinkles, the expression marks of their laughter and the worries we have spent together during these two decades, when their cellulite disappeared, there was no more. moments when I cooked and cared for our family.
It was when I saw these unreal images that I realized that, honestly, I don’t usually say how much I love her and love her as she is, despite all her flaws, it’s true that she hears so little that she believed that those photoshop images are really what I wanted and needed to see.
Honestly, I have to improve and celebrate every imperfection for the rest of our days. Thank you for the reminder?
This story invites us to make peace with our bodies and forget about the war of aesthetics that we fight with our weight and our measures, our value depends on ourselves, not our body, if we want to change something is for our health and not for social pressure.
The key to beauty is inside the eyes you can see, and only you can feel beautiful inside and out.