I’m tired of people telling me what to do or, worse, daring to tell me if I’m right or not, how to do it better, or how I shouldn’t. Now I’ll allow myself what I need, without waiting for anyone’s permission.
I find it very constructive for a loved one to let me know when I need help or, for example, to give me your opinion, as long as you don’t try to hurt me, but I won’t let anyone judge or decide me. how should i live my life, especially if you don’t know anything about me.
- It’s very easy to interview others.
- Because every person has a unique way of behaving and a personality of their own.
- In fact.
- If someone has ever told you that you’re special.
- They’re not wrong.
- Particular way of seeing and being in the world.
“Respect for the autonomy and dignity of all is an ethical imperative, not a favor we can or cannot grant ourselves” – Paulo Freire-
I have my own tastes, my personal experiences, my intimate hierarchy of values that is neither better nor worse than anyone else, no one knows better than me everything I have been through, which makes me think like this and not otherwise. or how you can hurt me when you criticize me for fun.
Moreover, no one can deny my autonomy because we have the right to be free, as long as we respect others. With respect, we will be able to maintain all relationships: we must have consideration and tolerance with the decisions of others.
In other words, I share my life with people who care about me and who love me exactly as I am; and that’s something I’m not going to change. Those who love me know what I need and don’t question my options, because I don’t need them to understand my reasons, I need love and respect.
Of course, I can make mistakes in my daily choices, but we were born with the ability to make mistakes and the humility to learn from our mistakes. You say I want to pay the price, try something and not be comfortable alone. because someone else doesn’t think it’s right.
I finally realized that the decisive word for exploring the world was mine, if I want to try I am free to do so, that is, even if it hurts me or marks me forever, I want to be responsible for it.
“Emotional wounds are the price we all have to pay to be independent. “Haruki Murakami.
If I don’t do it and let myself be carried away by others, it may not hurt me, but there will be regret of not trying, every day I regret not having had the courage to defend my interests and fight for them.
So fight for your values, your dreams and your ideas, find a way not to be bothered by criticism or judgment, as this will bring you no benefit, it is certainly the only way to make sense of everything we do and act accordingly. what we believe.
It’s true that right now, when someone “enters where they’re not called,” it hurts. But in the future, we will only remember the consequences of our actions. The other will give his opinion, judge and forget.
We don’t have enough time to waste doing something we don’t want for fear of what people are going to say, we don’t have enough time to feel bad because someone doesn’t accept our decisions, anyway, we don’t have time not to look for what we need and give us a chance to live fully.
“The right time to start is not tomorrow or next week, but now. “- Arnold Joseph Toynbee-