I built my life in a house of cards, although it took me a long time to realize it, I thought I had good cards in the game, but suddenly I lost the game, these letters were small achievements that I thought I had achieved. little by little and that, with a breath of hellish air, I lost in the blink of an eye.
There was the work card, the independence card, the freedom card and the confidence card, but a monster called a crisis came to play with the deck and this house of cards suffered a hurricane that ripped all the floors, breaking the walls as if they were straw.
And then I realized that it wasn’t me who was looking for these letters, but they had been given to me.
In the face of these circumstances that you did not expect, as if you had lost your life playing poker in a casino, the future in which you bet your savings has faded, there was nothing more good, the world became unlucky, and with them appeared their fears.
Many times we do not realize that we play life with marked cards and that we have to win the game, bad luck puts us in situations that we do not seek, that hurt us, because it is something that we cannot control.
What can we do when the cards we find in life do not promote our possibilities ?, How to win the game against bad luck?Especially without losing sight of the game of life, we can give up and let ourselves be carried away by the sadness to which the inertia of bad luck pushes us, or we can fight.
To fight, we often have to rely on different strategies that can work in our favor. So when cards are bad, so-called coping strategies can help us. Coping strategies are, according to Lazarus and Folkman, a set of cognitive and behavioral strategies that the person uses to manage internal or external demands that are perceived as excessive in the individual’s resources.
Adaptation strategies help us not only manage stress, but also face everyday emotions and problems, but in many cases we don’t use the right strategies, so we can’t cope with problems. Folkman, they’re of two types:
There is a particular type of adaptation that is the search for social support, which is part of both types, since it can be both emotional and problem oriented, in fact it depends on the use we give or search with this medium.
Not all of the strategies discussed here are positive or appropriate for problem solving, the strategies described above are the ones that the authors consider most commonly used, but esttachment and confrontation strategies often do more harm than help.
On the other hand, problem-solving and problem-solving strategies and positive re-evaluation strategies are considered the most useful in the face of our problems, as they generally yield very positive results.
So when the cards in your life’s game fall off like they’re part of a poorly built castle, use the best coping strategies to solve problems. If you don’t know how to use them, ask for psychological help to learn them and so on. that bad luck and sadness don’t win the game. You decide how you play the game of a lifetime: chance or luck gives you the cards and you choose which one to play at any given time.