I came to tell you something, but I finally forgot when you started talking, my shadows, my sea of worries, immediately disappeared like smoke disappearing through an open window, because you give me peace, because your gaze balances me and delights me, because you are my north, my island shelter in this uncertain rumor that is life.
It seems curious to see how much the editorial offer in the field of relationships focuses on a thousand almost magical tips and recipes to regain the love of our lives, and worse, they also teach us to set aside relationships that are no longer valid, those that leave quickly and without anesthesia. However, few focus on the essentials: the skills to preserve this relationship. En este viaje hacia la intimidad lenta y paciente en la que, como artesano, tejimos un hilo conductor.
- We have all experienced this situation at some point.
- Having a complicated day.
- Full of doubts.
- Due to the stress of this demanding world.
- However.
- When we go home or meet our own partner.
- Everything seems calm and logical.
- Just listen to him speak and everything will be in harmony.
- So that this arpeggio perfect offers us true satisfaction.
- Fullness.
Do we spend much of our existence creating one? Fake me?To survive, fit and please, until all of a sudden we meet this person. Let’s leave someone in front of us to remove all our onion layers to show the “our true self. ” Few things are just as satisfying.
We invite you to think about it
There are people who come into our lives at the right time, at the right time, and their presence is not just ballad, they become sculptors. One by one, they remove all our armor, wrappers, shyness and barriers to bring out who we are in our purest essence. That’s when we show ourselves face to face without fear, without veils or degana.
In Japanese, there is a term that fits very well with that, Wabi Sabi, is an artistic appreciation with an interesting philosophical connotation, it is the one who realizes the beauty of the imperfect, the purest and the most essential in the face of our own senses. It is the elegance of these objects, scenarios and even people who, although wounded, show the most in front of us in all their authenticity.
Some people are obsessed with finding the perfect match, so feel free to camouflage yourself under skin of apparent perfection. Donald Woods Winnicott, a famous English pediatrician and psychoanalyst, said that living with the mask of the false self implies an absolute total and loss of our own vitality, joy and creativity.
If we stop to think, the world itself is unpredictable, changing, and contradictory enough for us to be in our daily relationships. If talking to someone allows you to reconnect in a strange way, don’t miss it. If this person loves you, despite your quirks, your days in a bad mood and the relief of your scars, hold them tightly by the hand. Don’t let go.
Showing our true self is sometimes nothing but a challenge. It takes courage, strength and a little tenderness. However, let us remember what Kierkegaard said: “The deepest form of despair is to choose to be someone else we are not really. “
In turn, one thing we all know is that when love calls us it usually happens unexpectedly and with the force of a gust of wind, when we enter we cannot help but bring good and evil, if we are looking for perfect love based solely on the positive side, all we will find will be disappointments.
We must understand that none of us cross this threshold without baggage. In each of these layers of onion that surround us inhabit past stories, many beauties and virtues, but also some needs, wounds and certain fears. That’s why we’re a ‘complex and very elaborate’. This must not be hidden. Because complexity can also reflect authenticity.
We are an extensive book, sometimes disorganized and chaotic, but always beautiful. Recovering and celebrating with the help of others is essential and wonderful. Continuing this mutual reading in which we discover and accept every defect and every greatness is also paramount.
Gradually this perfect harmony will come where everything is filled and nothing is missing, those moments in which we speak comfort and balance us, as who has made a long journey and finally found this accomplice at home where the soul, life and dreams rest. .
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