When you become a mother, when a small part of you finally comes out, a part that has throbbed in your heart for nine months, your fears get bigger, you realize that there is no greater uncertainty than giving wings and learning to fly, knowing that when your child leaves the nest, he will have to chart his own path.
Perhaps that’s why being a mother is one of the most beautiful and, at the same time, scariest experiences you can live, it’s not just about giving life, it’s about learning to live it, it’s about being aware of our imperfections and mistakes, growing up as our children grow up.
- Is childbirth the only blind date you know.
- First of all.
- That you’ll meet a little person who’ll mark you forever?What will you mark forever.
Before giving birth, before our son leaves the womb and long before he starts flying on his own, first-time mothers are a sea of doubt. From how to eat to exercise during pregnancy. Add to this the thousands of books about motherhood and the great, though often oppressive, advice from women who were once mothers and around us.
A tip that is often contradicted or recommended by the health team. So what can we do to be a good mother and not make a mistake?Well, even if it sounds contradictory, the first thing we have to do is assume that we’re going to make mistakes, because we’re not perfect and because they’ve already made a mistake with us and yet nothing serious has happened to us.
The best guide to the maternity process will always be ourselves, because no one knows our body like we do, and once we give birth, no one like us will recognize our baby’s different cries. Can we have doubts? Of course, this is a new process, but health workers will always be there to advise us in the most correct way possible and keep us away from false myths of motherhood that can be harmful.
Mom, your arms were always open when I wanted a hug, your heart understood when I needed a friend, his tender eyes hardened when I needed a lesson, your strength and love guided me, and you could teach me how to fly.
Once our children grow up, motherhood becomes a real exercise in improvisation, no one is born knowing and, on many occasions, we cannot imagine the situations and dilemmas that we will face, we will do so with the help of all the advice and ideas we have. we’ve talked before, but mostly with our intuition.
The trick is to teach the path that best represents the values you would like to see reflected in your children and invite them to explore it, that is, you will learn to fly, you will choose your life and your plan, but they will decide where your flight will go.
They will be wrong, they will make decisions that you will not like, you will see them suffer and cry, but also laugh and evolve, this is one of the best parts of motherhood and you will be proud to see it grow and mature. you have done everything possible so that they can fly by themselves and see them leave the nest with the courage and responsibility that lead them to the arduous task of choosing their own destiny will be what completes this joy that began to beat at the same time as your hearts.
“You’ll learn to fly, but your flight won’t fly. You’ll learn to dream, but you won’t dream of your dream. You’ll learn to live, but they won’t live your life. Still? With every flight”. , in every life, in every dream, will there always be the footprint of the path taught?
-Teresa of Calcutta-